Okay I have a 9 1/2 year old who is growing into teen hood quickly. She is having a pimple here and there, her moodiness is increasing and she has asked me to buy her a bra. SOOO where do you buy little girl bras? Any recommendations on type/style etc. She certainly doesn't need one, but I think her breasts are starting to ache, so she feels self conscious. Also I have done several make up things for me, at the mall, mary kay, avon etc. Is there any where to take young girls for facials? I don't really want to have the mary kay lady over, but I guess i could. Anything else that I should be expecting ladies?

By Cybermommyx4 on Thursday, July 3, 2003 - 05:33 pm:

I would go to any department store for a bra - WalMart, KMart, Target...or, if she is anything like my DD, LIMITED TOO. (Be prepared to pay more at LIMITED TOO) But they have everything for Tweens - sports bras, cami-bras, etc. (I'm assuming she doesn't need boob support, just emotional support, lol! You could do the facials at home (maybe at a sleepover with a few of her friends) and do nails, too? You should expect a LOT more of this type of thing in the future, and then BOYS. DD is entering Junior High, and they have all started "dating" (in groups, and only to the movies, etc.) There is LOTS more fun in store for you

By Karen55 on Thursday, July 3, 2003 - 05:34 pm:

Mervyns, WalMart, Target, Sears......pretty much any place like that. What about trying a sports bra? If that moodiness is increasing and her breasts are aching, be prepared for periods to begin (or maybe she's started already?) One thing I would encourage you NOT to do is let her get bras that are padded at this age. She's a child, and she doesn't need to try to look like an adult yet. Sports bras would probably be the best choice at this point.

As for young girl facials, I don't know if there are any day spas around you, those are an option. Another option is that sometimes department stores have a makeover thing they will do when one or the other cosmetic companies is having a sale or something. Once when Jen and I were in the mall shopping they were doing that. Of course, their motive is to sell you gobs of expensive makeup, which you are not obligated to buy, however, we bought something like a liptstick or something. It might really be easier to have the Mary Kay lady over and be done with it.

I know that when they start maturing, they like pretty underwear or sleepwear. My mom always bought us plain white cotton *granny drawers* and I hated it. Maybe some underwear in pretty colors or prints; same thing with nightgowns or jammies - for summer, the kind with the t shirts and boxer shorts are really cute.

Also, you need to figure out what your policy on makeup is going to be with her - what age she will be allowed to wear it, how much, etc. A little clear or light pink lip gloss isn't out of the question now, IMO - just a little something that makes her *feel* pretty inside. Something like that doesn't really even show up, but she will probably feel like it's a big deal.

By Kaye on Thursday, July 3, 2003 - 06:40 pm:

YIKES! MAKEUP!! She is pretty frumpy right now, I am really hoping she starts primping soon, I would love her hair to look brushed occasionally! I guess I really decided that I would kind of see what the rest of the world is doing. I can't imagine her dating. Army dad here, I did not date until my senior year, I had to be in by 11PM, except on new years eve, I got to stay out until 12:15, it was a 10 minute drive to the dance we were at..ROFL! I don't think I will be as strict, but certainly much stricter than most. We just moved here, so it is all new kids all new insecurities, so if buying a bra and some new stuff helps the self esteem I am just all for that!

By Annie2 on Thursday, July 3, 2003 - 08:14 pm:

Old Navy has a cute bra for girls her age. They sell a flat front style then she can move up to one which is pleated under her nipples to give her room to grow. I remember them being reasonably priced and they washed very well.
My daughter is 12 now and has started to have blemishes and pimples. I never had them, having very dry skin, I was clueless as what to tell her, plus with all of the new products on the market these days, etc.
I took her to our neighbor who runs a cosmetic line in the local dept. store. She knew I didn't want DD to wear noticable make-up. She gave her some skin care tips, ways to use lip gloss and sheen lotion to add to her natural beauty. This all took place at the cosmetic counter, by a "professional", so my DD to her advice to heart!
Good luck. I am finding out the bigger (older) the child the bigger the problems! LOL

By Karen55 on Thursday, July 3, 2003 - 08:51 pm:

Annie, you've got that right!

By Bobbie on Thursday, July 3, 2003 - 11:34 pm:

Can say that again Annie. Find out what your DD wants. Callie going to be 14 started out with sports bras that is what all her friends wore and that is what she wanted. Now she is in bra and panty combo's. I splurg, Mom made me wear granny panties and white bra's I thought I would die every time I had to dress out for gym. So I go all out for her.

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, July 3, 2003 - 11:52 pm:

My 11yo dd is reaching the stage of probably needing a bra. She doesn't care yet! LOL! We already have some small ones since she is the younger daughter. I don't think I need to push it yet.

By Bobbie on Friday, July 4, 2003 - 12:33 am:

I agree...... She will have to wear one the rest of her life. I would let her go with out one until she tells you she needs one. OR in some cases the out fit requires one.... White blouses being an example... They grow up too fast on their own.. No need to push them..

Kaye, I have a feeling I am going to be the mom that won't let my kids leave the home with out adult supervision. Oh you and Billy want to go out on a date??? The movies you say??? Sounds great... When is Billy coming to pick you up?? Oh okay DAD and I will be ready to tag along. I am so scared after the stuff I did as a kid. Oh my... I sure hope I can survive this....... As far as my parents are concerned I was a saint. But boy oh boy if they only knew the truth......... They would probable ground me. LOL

By Dawnk777 on Friday, July 4, 2003 - 09:36 am:

Bobbie, I would have been horrified if my parents had come along on a date! LOL!