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Vent so I don't fuss at dh

Moms View Message Board: General Discussion: Archive October 2006: Vent so I don't fuss at dh
By Imamommyx4 on Thursday, October 19, 2006 - 02:27 pm:

I'm mad and just about in tears. I hate feeling so helpless.

First, we had no gas to put in any lawnmower and all of them were empty so I had to get gas.
Then the riding lawnmower wouldn't start so I had to jump it off. As I finish, it goes dead on the ramp into the shed and rolls back into the yard.
Then, the push mower wouldn't start. Urgghh!
So, I go to weed eat. We have 2 weedeaters and neither weedeater has gas nor string nor can I find mixed gas to put in them. There's a roll of weedeater string on the back porch, but it's starting to drizzle.
So, I go get the blower to at least get the grass off the drive, patio and sidewalk before it gets too wet. But the extension cords are all tangled. I get them untangled and find an end and it is too big to fit the back of the blower.
And it's raining now.
I finally find a cord to go into the blower, get the most important parts blown off, put everything away.
I'm filthy, wet, in tears and all I wanted to do was get the yard mowed one last time so it looks nice.

I don't mind mowing. I actually like to mow. But I can't do the maintenance on those stupid things. And it makes me mad that I can't start the mower by myself. My dh works full time, I work a couple of days a week and I don't want him to have to mow on his days off. So I don't mind doing that. But it makes me so mad when I can't because nothing will function.

So the madder I get, the worse things seem to get. I slipped in the yard in the rain with the blower and my ankle hurts. I can walk, it just hurts.

And while I'm typing this, I keep hearing a noise in the kitchen. It's not the dog, he's outside and filthy and been rolling in poop so I have to bathe him before he comes in. The kitten is asleep on the couch. And the noise is coming from under the sink. Dh said he set a mouse trap and it may be a trapped mouse, just get it out. Yeah, right. Did I mention that I'm already not doing well this morning? I don't like mice dead or alive much less half dead. Do you really think I'm, going under there? NOT !!! I hope the dishwashing liquid is on the counter or the dishes won't get washed today.

Oh, and I left my window down in my van. Did I mention that it is raining???????

My dh does not like it when cords or garden hoses are left piled instead of wound up on the things he has to put them on. But there is now a huge mound of extension cord(s) in the garage that will remain there if it requires my attention to put them away. I have so highly suggested that dh not say one word to me about that mess.

I will calm down in a minute and stop crying and wash dishes (if the dishwashing liquid is on the counter.)

By Heaventree on Thursday, October 19, 2006 - 02:38 pm:

Oh you poor thing. If you really need to wash the dishes and don't want to go under the sink go in the bathroom and grab a bottle of shampoo.

Hugs, hope your day improves.

By Insaneusmcwife on Thursday, October 19, 2006 - 04:22 pm:

{{{Debbie}}} I'm sorry your day didn't start out so well. Hope things get better for you.

By Karen~admin on Thursday, October 19, 2006 - 06:27 pm:


By Cocoabutter on Friday, October 20, 2006 - 12:54 am:

BTDT! Hope your day is better- and tomorrow is a new day!

My dh isn't so good at maintaining small engines, even tho he is a semi-truck mechanic. This past summer we bought him a brand new mower and when we got it home and got it together, it was raining.

It's still early, and there will plenty of chances to mow the lawn before winter. I am sure that your dh appreciates your efforts, and if you ask him nicely, I don't see why he wouldn't help you maintain the equipment. If he can't maybe you should ask someone to show you how, and you can do it for yourself. You'll feel proud knowing how to take care of it all on your own, and you won't have to rely on anyone else to do it for you.

Good luck!

By Dawnk777 on Friday, October 20, 2006 - 07:22 am:

Should I send Gary over? He is Mr. Small Engine Maintenance. He prides himself on lawnmowers starting on the first pull. He starts the mowers in the winter and the snowblower in the summer, to make sure all are working. He also makes sure the oil is changed occasionally, too! So, I can usually start a mower, if I have time to mow. Our problem lately, is no one having TIME to mow! Ours needs to be done again, too, and it's supposed to rain over the weekend. Isn't that special?

By Imamommyx4 on Friday, October 20, 2006 - 07:57 am:

Dh is very handy around the house. But lately, he's gotten into a hobby that seems to occupy most of his spare time at home.

I politely told him how upset I was. He said he'd finish the trimming and next summer he'd either do all the trimming or fix the stuff so I could do it all myself if I really wanted to do the mowing. I think my biggest frustration was just feeling so helpless. Before I was married I bulldozed through life. If something needed fixing I either figured it out myself or got somebody else to do it. Over the past 18 years I have allowed myself to become helpless and taken care of. I like being taken care of. But I realized that if something happened to him, I'm in a big mess.

I ate a BIG bowl of Cocoa Krispies and watched HGTV for a hour and felt better. DH said thank goodness for Momsview and Cocoa Krispies. It took the sting out of my fury.

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