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Okay I think this was talked about this on here before and I might have mentioned that my dh does this. I could tell you some really funny stories and some not so funny ones. I am going through the not so funny ones right now. I know that he can't help it and that is what is frustrating. He goes through spurts where he will not do it for 6 months or more. But the last two weeks he has done it at least 4 times. Only 3 times in our 10 years of marriage have been afraid of him when he does these things. On these occasions he will say bizarre things, and one time he was cursing at me and threatened me that I was trying to kill him. Its crazy!!!! Several months ago he stepped on my leg in the middle of the night when he was standing on the bed. I had a huge bruise. Now imagine being woken up to that. So the last two nights he has been getting up. The night before I yelled at him to get down before he stepped on me again. Last night I don't even really know what happened he was yelling at me and I woke up out of a dead sleep and I just told him to knock it off and get back in bed. He did and then he was awake. Last night was one of the nights I was scared of him it was something in his voice. Even though I can't remember what he was saying. Obviously not scared enough that I went right back to sleep. He said well if it makes you feel any better I hit my head. Our ceilings are slanted and I admit it kind of did!! LOL! I wish there was something that could be done. But we have no idea what triggers them. It is so frustrating. Any one else expierence this?
I am a sleepwalker. My trigger is stress. Also if I just get to where I am not getting enough sleep. In general I don't usually pop up and walk around, it starts with talking a lot, being very restless and then a week or so later I start walking. Things that have helped me. First find a routine and stick to it. Daily exercise (even just 5 minutes) helps get my body the right stuff, going to bed and tv off at a certain time. Also certain shows are no no's before bed. For awhile all tv viewing had to be done in a different room. Also a new mattress helps wonders for me. I can usually tell when it is time for a new one by the number of times a week I wake up somewhere else! But even things like new pillows, new sheets, cooler air etc. For me it is a response to my body not feeling right, so even though I can't always control the stress in my world (and oh is that an understatment this week). I can control the physical environment. So things as silly as, my week has been hell. So I washed all my sheets and pillow cases a couple of days ahead of schedule. I put my favorite ones on, with lots of fabric softner and tossed my pillows in the dryer with a fabric sheet. What I often do is really clean my room, dust it good, put all the laundry away etc. Little things, but they do make a difference.
I am a sleepwalker too - as with Kaye, it happens usually when I am stressed or overtired. I get very annoyed if someone tries to ask me what I am doing when I am doing it (when I am sleepwalking), I think partially because somewhere in my head I know it's not making sense.
I have been a sleepwalker at certain times in my life as well. I was a big sleepwalker as a child (always trying to get out the back door to go to my g'parents house), and maybe a dozen times as an adult. It ALWAYS happens when I'm overly tired...just exhausted.
I once went sleepwalking out of my motel room in Mexico City (before I was married). I walked down the halls in my nightie and to be really honest, I'm not sure how I got back in my bed. I *think* I may have just walked so long that I woke myself up. Scary.
I say some awful things now to my DH when he comes to bed after me. He knows now to just laugh it off and tell me the good stories the next morning, because I never remember what I said.
I've never been a sleepwalker but I'm terrible about talking in my sleep. My dh has whole conversations with me once every two weeks or so that I have no memory of. My problem is worst the week before AF visits (obviously not an issue with your DH) or when I've worked myself into a frazzle about something. I've said some terribly mean things to my DH that he loves to tease me about. My dh was a sleepwalker before I knew him and he had a sleep study done and apparently sleepwalking can be aggravated by sleep apnea. I don't quite understand what the correlation is since apnea keeps you in a lighter sleep and sleepwalking happens in deep sleep except that when he finally got into a truly deep sleep, he was so exhausted that he would sleepwalk. Would your DH be willing to see a doctor about it or have a sleep study done? Once my DH's apnea was taken care of, he stopped walking and I've never seen him do it.
My dd who is 8 is a sleepwalker but so his dh. He does it more when he has had a rough day at work. there have been a few times where all I could do is laugh. He is a manager at drug store some of the nights he is sleep walking he is on the register at work and handing out change and talking to customers. or he will get up real fast and say something off the wall that just cracks me up. Which I get frustrated and yell at him to get back in bed when he wakes me up but dd sleep walks to where she will be in a differnet place in the house then in her bed. She woke up one morning sleeping on the couch when she was at my MOms spending the night she was trying to get out there back door because she was going to walk home. I haven't figured out what triggers her yet. We went and bought new locks just to be safe with her.
My older daughter went through some sleepwalking, when she was younger. She would come and talk to me, but not make any sense. Sometimes, she would say something and then go right back to bed. It hasn't happened in a really long time. I think it did happen, when she was worried about something.
When I'm worried about something, I usually have dreams about it. For instance, if I have something important to wake up for, I'll spend the whole night dreaming that I was late! It drives me crazy, and then I don't feel that rested in the morning, because the dream was exhausting!