Do you make breakfast/lunch for your DH?
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Do you make breakfast/lunch for your DH?
To be honest, i've only done it a handful of times. DH usually wakes up between 4:30-5 and to me that seems hard to do. But recently he took on a second job. He works with the Marines from 6-3 then comes home, relaxes for a few minutes and heads off to job #2 from 5-9. I feel bad that he took on a second job but he really wants to get rid of our newly acquired debt and so that we have extra spending money to go places a few times a month with the trailer we just bought.
I really want to I guess show a way of saying thanks to DH for doing what he's doing. He really doesn't have to and I know he would just love having breakfast made for him in the mornings and packed lunches for work. He's mentioned it on several occasions. I don't mind doing it at all except for the fact that i'm totally not a morning person. This would be a complete adjustment to me since Kaitlyn and I wake up around 7. I'd be losing 2-2 1/2 hours of much needed sleep (these days at least). But I think it's a sacrifice I should be able to do. It's the least I could do being a SAHM.
So, do you cook/make these meals for your DH? How early do you wake up to do it? Does your day seem to drag after waking up so early?
Well, I've pretty much always been a working mom/wife, so I was up anyway. I used to make my X's lunches way back when. I even started something that got to be a joke with him and his coworkers - I would pack a cloth napkin, and one of those small bud vases, and a silk flower to put in it. I did it once on something like Valentines Day, and it was such a *hit*, I did it every day after that.
Anyway, to the point, I did make his lunch - sometimes it included soup and sandwich, fruit, snack, etc., others a salad, sandwich or meal to heat up, dessert, etc. Fresh vegies with ranch dip sometimes. Leftovers from dinner sometimes. And a thermos of lemonade or something.
But, I did that when I was making the kids' lunches, so it's not like I had to get up any earlier.
You could prepare it the night before and keep it in the fridge, or get up long enough to make his lunch and go back to bed.
I always make dh's lunch. It's not expected, he wouldn't mind if I didn't but I do. I usually get the coffee made in the morning, but he gets his own breakfast, unless I am making muffins or something. He always makes dinner for him and I.
I get up at 5am every day (sometimes I'll sleep til 7a on the weekends). I have tons of energy in the morning and enjoy the quiet time before everyone gets up.
I don't. I do on occasion do my hubby's lunches. I pack it up the night before and tell him, lunch is ready for the morning. I do try to buy things for him for breakfast. He like a special type of bagel, and certain cream cheese. Also he has a freezer at work, so he will take in boxes of breakfast burritos, or sausage.
A good friend of mine did get up every morning and fix breakfast. She just very simply got up when his alarm went off, made breakfast while he was in the shower and then went back to bed. It really didn't take long.
My personal opinion, it is nice to do. But I wouldn't do it everyday, I would lean towards it being a special favor. Also you have to keep in mind in a few short months, you sleep becomes even more precious. I guess I just see this very easily becoming about his expectations and then being very hard to meet them.
The other side of that is, my hubby would never even think to ask me to do that. Would it make him feel special, maybe once or twice, but I also think it would make him feel guilty. He is a grown man, he can take care of himself. I already have 3 children to take care of in the mornings. My hubby is considerate enough to not turn on any lights in the am, and make sure the bathroom doors are pulled to, so it doesn't bother me. He wants me to have my sleep, it makes me a happier person!
Lunch for DH is generally leftovers from the night before. I or he packs them after dinner and put them in the fridge for the next morning. You could also make a sandwich and chips and if he likes stuff on his sandwich put the dressing/condoments in a small container so the bread doesn't get soggy all of this could be done the night before also.
When you are planning out dinner plan to make enough to have extras for his lunch.
As for breakfast could you buy things that are quick breakfast like toaster sandwiches or micro hot pockets or even a PBJ so you could get up in the morning and fix it and go back to bed. And then maybe 1x a week do a bigger breakfast.
Would he eat those things for lunch and breakfast?
I wake up to help my dh get ready, but I also have to take him to work since we have one car. I usually fix sandwiches or leftovers. I also buy easy things for breakfast. Like this morning it was 2 sandwiches with pickles on the side, chips, and some small chocolate donuts. For breakfast I bought some sausage, egg and cheese bisquits and some small things of chocolate milk for breakfast. usually his breakfasts aren't that good, but I just went to the store last night. The day before it was leftover pot roast and potatoes with a dessert. So it varies quite a bit. I agree that it would be a nice thing to do and you can just go right back to bed or do it the night before.
No I have never done it, guess Im a bad wife LOL..
He actually keeps food in his office for breakfast and lunch. Sometimes he will go out for lunch, but basically makes sure he is stocked up on food for the office, to save himself some money.
Yep. Everyday. But my dh works nights, so it's easy for me!
You could make his lunch the night before. He probably wouldn't mind just throwing it into his lunch box in the morning.
What kind of breakfasts does he want? Could be something as simple as toast and cereal, or throwing waffles in the toaster. If it is bacon and eggs, get the supplies you need ready so that in the AM you arent' banging around in the kitchen. Put the frying pan up on the counter, have the utensils handy, and a plate and silverware on the table before you go to bed.
You may find that you need to go to bed earlier at night to make up for the time you are awake, but when you send him off to work, you can go back to bed.
Then go back to bed.
Nope. LOL, Jackie. I guess I am a bad wife too.
Dh fixes his own lunch. He usually does it while I am doing the dishes. He either packs leftovers(if there are any) or makes a sandwich.
In the mornings, we get up at the same time, but I exercise while he showers and gets ready for work. He usually just gets a bowl of cereal. Now, on the weekends, I do make breeakfast for everyone.
My DH eats lunch at home, so no... I don't make his meals. Of course, he doesn't work a second job either, it wouldn't be worth it to us for him to be away so much just to buy luxuries.
My DH doesnt eat breakfast and I make his lunch maybe twice a week.When I do make his lunch I put a special note inside for him(for his eyes only)I also have a stamp thats the size of a piece a bread and I stamp it with an I love you.Just to make him feel special.If youre not a morning person how about run him a bath when he gets home from the 2nd job and maybe a foot massage.Theres so many different ways to show him hes special without disrupting youre sleep and not getting into anything that will be expected later on.Have fun.
I've never made breakfast during the work week and wouldn't even think of it!! LOL I never made his lunch when I worked, and again wouldn't think of it, but now that I'm a SAHM I do pack a lunch for him.
Tripletmom - I also do little lunch notes from time to time and he loves them!
Gosh, I feel better reading that I'm not the only one who doesn't make my husband lunch and breakfast on a regular basis! I mean, I do at times, and it depends on what his schedule is compared to mine, etc. In your case, Melissa, I probably would, the night before, as your husband is working extra hours. But you are too, since he will be home less, so you need your sleep!
I guess I think about how independent my husband was when I met him. Like me, he had lived on his own for some time before we met. He did all his own cooking, laundry, cleaning and worked full time. So, I never really felt like I needed to take care of him. It's more my way of being extra considerate and helping him out when I can. But I know he is quite capable of taking care of himself.
I'll never forget the first time my MIL stayed with us after we were married and moved away. She woke up early to see my husband off to work and was shocked I didn't have his lunch all packed and ready to go. So, I have always felt guilty, yet I don't feel he needs me to be his mom.
Well actually DH gets up first, takes both kids feeds them breakfast and makes me breakfast as well. He gets up at 6:30 and I get up at 7-7:30. He eats out everyday for lunch, doesn't like to stay in the office. He would probably like it if I made him lunch a few times a week but doesn't expect it. On the weekends he cooks a large breakfast for all of us.
If he's busy around the house on the weekends he will ask me to make lunch for him or I just will.
Melissa, if it were me I would sleep, your body needs rest right now and will need even more when the baby comes, your DH will survive. If you want to do something nice for him make his lunch before you go to bed at night for the next day. You could also make him something easy to grab for breakfast in the morning or buy some food that does not take long to prepare like frozen waffles and always have plenty on hand so he doesn't have to think about it too much in the morning.
You have a little baby to grow right now, you need your rest. If you want to make him feel appreciated or special you can make up for it on the weekends.
Okay so I don't get the Bad Wife award? LOL! I swear, ALL of my friends around here make breakfast and pack their DH's lunches. I've always gone along with the "He's a big boy" statement but I figured since he'll be extra busy, I can help out too. Maybe i'll just wake up early and then take a nap when DD does? His usual breakfast request is egg sandwiches. That can't take too long to make. Then all he needs for lunch is a few sandwiches, some fruit and a protein bar since he's trying to eat healthier.
My hubby gets up at 4:50 a.m. and leaves around 5:15. I wake him up, he kisses me. Then he gets up and quietly gets ready to go. He comes in and kisses me bye and I tell him to have a good day and to drive carefully and I love him. He is at work for lunch. He packs his own lunch. But when I cook meals, I cook enough so he can take leftovers for his lunch the next day.
He would never expect me to get out of bed to see him off to work. I've asked him if he wants me to (secretly saying, "please, no, please, no") and he said of course not. But I expect him to come tell me good-bye. I barely remember it, though! hehe!
He knows I don't sleep well at night because of my disabilities, and he doesn't ask anything extra of me, but even if I didn't have health problems, he still wouldn't. He's just really considerate like that.
I do insist he spend the extra money when we grocery shop on some of the breakfast items like the already made breakfast sandwiches and such. He takes them to work with him and heats them in the microwave there and eats them, usually on his first break because he doesn't like eating so early before work.
No, i don't do that. Dh does not usually eat breakfast. He says it give him a stomach ache in the morning if he eats.
He does not bring lunch to work. Sometimes he goes out to lunch with people from work, other times he comes home for lunch.
I must be on the bad wife list too ;) hehe
I don't make my dh's breakfast or lunch. He gets up at 5:30 to go to the gym. Comes home at 6:30 and has his breakfast. I think he has cereal, not sure. Then he makes my kids their breakfast and wakes them up at 7am to eat. He wakes me up at 7:15 so that I can get the kids their clothes and get them ready for school.
He knows I have a lot going on during the days with the kids. And, he knows that I deal with them on a regular basis. So, he doesn't mind taking care of breakfast for them so I can have a small break. He usually gets home after we've already eaten. I always make sure there is plenty left for him to eat. Sometimes I'll dish it onto a plate so I can clean up the dinner mess. If not, he'll dish his own and clean up the mess when he's done. What a charm he is ;)
I think that whatever works for you, is what you should do. If he doesn't mind making his own breakfast/lunch, then let him do it!
I think I win the worst wife award. My dh doesn't eat breakfast (it makes him sick to eat too soon after waking), picks up lunch at work (he works at a grocery store) and if he doesn't like what I made for the kids and I for dinner (he's not home in the evenings), he rummages around in the leftovers or frozen food for dinner. I just asked him, though, and he said it works for us.
When we were younger, I really tried but with his job now he eats at work in the am and goes out to eat for lunch! I think he enjoys it much more than a packed lunch...I know I do!
Bad wife here, too. Dh has never been a big breakfast guy, but he will have breakfast on weekends. I've tried packing lunches for him, but he told me not to. He either eats something they have at work or he'll go out with his buddies. I've occassionally gotten up to make him tea-to-go if he needs it. Otherwise, he wakes up, gets ready, kisses the kids and then kisses me and let's me know what time he'll be home. I used to drive out to his job at night sometimes when we didn't have kids yet to give him some dinner.