Sister Drama- Revisited
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I know, you guys are probably getting tired of hearing it but really, this is my only place to vent.
A few days ago she was admitted to the L&D for preterm labor and dehydration. (She is 24 weeks along) I guess on Friday night she had a little bleeding and ignored it. Saturday morning she woke up with painful contractions. She ignored them too after they went away. That night she was getting ready to meet up with a friend (there's more to that story, but that can be saved for another time) and was getting light headed and dizzy on the way. She called to tell him and he took her to the ER. They gave her a steroid shot and put her on an iv for 4 hours. She is on bed rest now. They say the cause is stress related. (Or so she tells me.) She was recently laid off from her job. She is also still in the same boyfriend predicament, though lately she seems to be the one stirring those waters. I mean, did she expect him NOT to be upset when she didn't bother to call him while in the ER, but rather send a text as she was leaving? Come on. She had the time to call me and let me know while she was there.
I called my mom to tell her since my sister had yet to talk to her. My mom and I both have the same thoughts/suspicions. My sister is very nonchalant about this whole situation. Sometimes my mom and I wonder if she intentionally does these things hoping to lose the baby, therefore getting baby daddy out of her life. Is she that evil? Really, I don't know. Maybe.
As much as I despise her boyfriend, I sometimes feel like emailing him to get his side of the story. To hear what he knows about her, that I might not know. To make a plan to get her and this baby through the pregnancy healthy. I don't know. I just feel like something needs to happen but nobody knows what, and maybe if we all stuck together we could do it. I don't want to risk losing a relationship with my sister though.
Then I can't help but wonder if she gets through this pregnancy and everything turns out okay, how is she going to be as a mom? She has no emotional connection to this baby as of yet. She refers to the baby as if it's just a burden on her life.
I don't know what to do, if anything. I don't know how to support her when she needs a bit of tough love. I've been playing nice and being there for her but I feel guilty like i'm not being a voice for this baby. I don't know how to tell her nicely and bluntly that what she's doing right now is wrong.
I am sorry that you are dealing with this Melissa, I struggle with both my sisters having issues so I can totally relate. You love them and don't want to loose your relationship with them but at the same time you feel that you should be doing more to help. It's a loose loose situation unfortuately. I don't have any great words of wisdom but I do offer a hug and the consilation that you aren't alone in this. Vent anytime, that's what we are here for.
Thank you. Sometimes I just feel like my life might be a little too "normal" if it weren't for my family. LOL I stress more about their lives and problems than anything else.
Vent away, we listen.
And boy, could we swap stories. I'm the normal one, too.
I hear you too... No suggestions but I have one of those sisters too..