She was only about 60. She was taken to the hospital with pneumonia and didn't make it this time (from what we were told it sounded like this wasn't the first time she's had it). She was severely overweight, had diabetes and has never taken good care of herself. I haven't seen her in years. We weren't close at all, but I'm still having some difficulty sorting through my emotions with this. My uncle, who I am closer to, is the last one left in his family now. I'm sure that's effecting him. She had 1 son and 2 daughters. I'm worried about the youngest. She was very dependent on her mom (like her mom was on my grandma) and who knows what she'll do now (she's 33). She's been in and out of hospitals since her teens. I hope she can keep it together or at least get some help if she needs it. The one boy I haven't seen since I was about 10 because he's been in and out of jail since he was about 14. I loved my grandparents, but they were HORRIBLE parents and my dad's sister never got her life together, therefore her kids didn't. My dad did and my uncle finally did about 13 years ago (married a GREAT woman and she set him straight). I think she tried, but just didn't know how because she'd never been taught. Even so, she was still my aunt and this is my family. As dysfunctional as it is. If you're so inclined, please say a prayer for my cousins and my uncle. I'm sure they've sorting through lots of feelings, too.

By Brandy on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 02:24 pm:

I'm sorry to hear of your loss and i will say a prayer for the kids and your uncle = ( and a prayer for you also ...

By Colette on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 02:28 pm:

I am sorry for your loss Cat.

By Angellew on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 02:36 pm:

I'm so sorry, Cat. You and your family will be in the thoughts and prayers.

By Mom2three1968 on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 03:04 pm:

My condolences to you and your family Cat, I am sorry for your loss...

By Jackie on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 03:20 pm:

I am sorry for your loss.

By Happynerdmom on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 05:03 pm:

I'm sorry, Cat. Hugs and prayers.

By Bea on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 05:05 pm:

I'm sorry, Cat. They'll be in my prayers.

By Tink on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 05:53 pm:

Oh, Cat, I'm so sorry to hear this. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.{{{Cat}}}

By Crystal915 on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 07:55 pm:

I'm sorry for your loss, Cat.

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 07:56 pm:

I'm so sorry, Cat.

By Rayelle on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 08:26 pm:

I am sorry.

By Karen~admin on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 08:46 pm:

Cat, Im so sorry.

By Mlee on Tuesday, January 22, 2008 - 09:59 pm:

Hospice provided grief counseling after my mother died. The counselor told me that while it's hard to lose people we love and like, in some ways it's harder to lose problematic people because there are so many mixed emotions to sort through. (I liked and loved my mom, but she suffered from depression and anxiety and could be pretty difficult.) Hang in there with sorting things through, Cat.

I hope your cousins and uncle do okay.

By Cat on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 - 03:54 pm:

Thank you all for your kind words. My mom said she talked to my uncle for over an hour this morning. He said he'd talked to my aunt right before Christmas and she had an infection that just wasn't healing. We think that weakened her and when the pneumonia hit it was just too much for her body to handle. She wasn't quite 60--would have been this August. They're not having any visitations and just a small service with cremation. Thanx for the prayers for her girls and my uncle. This was his baby sister that he had a hand in helping raise (he and my dad basically raised her and themselves).

I was looking through my address book this morning and saw an old address of hers in there. It wasn't anywhere near current (she moved a lot) but I still had to pause and sigh.

By Mrsheidi on Saturday, January 26, 2008 - 03:39 pm:

I'm so sorry to hear, Cat...

By Longaboo on Saturday, January 26, 2008 - 09:32 pm:

They say the Good Lord never puts anything on us that we can't handle. There might have been something down the road that your Aunt couldn't handle so she he took her home. My prayers are with you and your family. Sorry for your loss, Cat