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I feel like i am chasing ds every minute of my days, i am so tired and want to just relax! My ds is driving me insane. he is such a busy body, he is not bad and he tries to love on me but he constantly climbs out of windows, up the stairs, i have even blocked the door to the stairs with my couch and HE MOVES IT, unless i am laying on it. I just can't get anything done because i spend all day making sure he doesn't kill himself. My house is a wreck which is driving me nuts...i am very picky about my house. My dh tries to help but we all know how well hubbys clean, he tries his best. I am wondering how on earth i will be able to take care of the new baby with my ds all over the place! I tried taking him outside during the day but thats even worse, i can't keep him in the yard, and thats just gives me more space to chase him and to be honest right now i am starting to feel pregnant and not like running around after him all day! My dd is out of school and i think she is making it worse, she gets him all riled up and then goes outside and leaves me to deal with him. And my dh's boss called me and BEGGED me to cook my cookies for the bake auction on base. I don't mind at all but i need to make sure i get it done quick while nathan is sleeping at night or something! UGHHHHH.. thanks for reading, really needed to vent!
remember to get your rest;)
Our third dd is very active like this. At 1 year (she climbed out of her crib) I cleaned everything out of the room, placed a mattress on the floor and 1 dresser. I placed the door gate on the door about 4 inches above the floor, so she could not climb out. This was like a giant playpen to her. I would often place her in there when I needed to get things done.
She went through the terrible 2's from age 1 to 44 months, whew, she is finally behaving herself.
Good luck and come up with some creative ideas, I had to.
Would he watch a movie if you put one on? I hate to always use that as a diversion but if you really need to get stuff done. At that age my son loved Baby Einstein movies, they would entrance him practically. Hope your day gets better
I feel for you. I know how it is. All three of my girls are pretty active. I haven't ever worried about them trying to escape out of the house or anything like that. I try to let my girls sit at the kitchen table and play with play dough (your son is probably too young), maybe let him watch a video (if he will sit still long enough) or let him sit in the tub and play with some bath toys - of course you will have to be near-by but at least maybe you could sit down a relax for a bit. Will he lay next to you and watch t.v. maybe you could both take a nap. If I get tired, I make all of them lay down to take naps, now with Olivia my middle child, I would have to lay down with my legs wrapped around her and my arms around her to keep her still until she got tired, gave up and fell asleep, she just moves constantly. Hang in there, I know it is tough.
I remember watching a show about the family who had the septuplets (sp?). They cleared out a room, except for some toys and then put two baby gates, one on top of the other on the door. Then they greased the bars so the kids couldn't climb up. (They couldn't climb out since the 2nd gate was on the top of the door.) Maybe you could do something like that.
I should have!
I felt that way while pregnant. I remember thinking that it seemed like the minute we found out we were having a baby my ds decided to go crazy. I thought how am I going to keep up with him when I get bigger. It gets easier, after your done feeling sick, you will have more energy. Just rest often, especially when he is. Eat healthy & a lot of smaller meals.
Kenna, maybe by the time your new baby is born ds will have settle down. Things are amplified when you are pregnant. Tired, sick, all takes it's toll. You will get through this. I'm picky about my house too, I have 3 ds's. I don't have any advice about the house cleaning thing because I know we are supposed to accept or go with the flow but easier said than done, although I do try. Hang in there!!!!!
Oh Kenna! I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I don't have any suggestions that haven't already been given but I wanted to send hugs your way. Are there any moms on base that would watch him for an hour or two just to give you a break? I would ask a neighbor to watch my ds for an hour and then clean my living room really well because I knew I'd feel better with at least one room I could relax in.
I am feeling a little better today, dh took both kids out for a few hours last night when he got home and then brought dinner home so i had some quiet time to regain some sanity! I have tried alot of different ways to keep him occupied but he doesn't watch much tv, he likes to play ball all day too but i get tired pretty quick. I got my living room nicely cleaned and then laid down to read till they came home but of course my living room looked like a hurricane hit it by the time we went to bed, lol. Oh well, such is life! I think i will feel much better once i get to shop for new baby!
It is so nice to see that there are so many out there in the same boat! DD is 3 1/2 yrs old and DS is 12 wks old. I am a teacher, so I get summers off. My sis has an 11 year old DS and a 2 yr old DS. When it was just DD and I, I used to rail on my sis for claiming she needed "alone time". I even criticized her to my husband, saying how could she really love her kids with all her heart and still need "alone" time. (Shame on me, I know!)
In any event, now that I have two, I am freaking out. I am one of those that if you can't "eat off of your floor, then it is not clean enough" weirdos and it seems like now that there are two, it has become impossible to get anything done. It is June and I have been off since March on maternity leave. I still have yet to do anything but clean my house. I finally gave up and we went to the park the other day for a picnic. We lost all track of time and stayed for three hours. DD then fell asleep on the way home (at three o'clock) and slept until 8 pm. She said I was the best mom in the world for taking her to the park.
There is still the issue of no "alone" time that I swore I didn't need...boy was I wrong. My husband comes straight home from work and heads straight for the garage to work on the massive yard we have or something else that he "needs to get done". I realized that I will never lose my pregnancy weight unless I get out of this house and join an exercise club, so I did. I have been five times since I joined in May because I can't get DH in the house for an hour to watch the kids. I am going stir crazy for some "alone" time. I can't believe how much crow I have had to eat since DS came along...but I still love every minute of having two and wouldn't mind a third someday. Thanks for letting me vent!