So I started the process...
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So I started the process...
Ok, I know Ive complained alot about my sons teacher, and the things that go on in his 4th grade classroom..How punishment for one child , is not the same for another child..even for the same behavior..
Ive been procrastinating talking to the vice-prinicpal...
Anyways, my son comes home telling me of all the things this boy did to him yesterday, from kicking in the back of the leg walking down the hallway, to breaking his pencil on purpose. My apparently dropped it on the floor and this boy purposely stepped on it to break it. My son told me instead of tattling for each and every offense, he wrote these things down on a piece of paper. Apparently the teacher saw my sons list and tore it up. WHAT??
Anyways.. this morning right before he left for school. I wrote a short note to the teacher, first telling her Im tired of hearing what goes on in that classroom, that I think her punishments are unfair, and when my son complains she tells him "Oh so and so was just playing".. yet one person tells her that my son is talking or bothering somebody and automatically his recess is taken away.
I went on to say I want to know each and every bad thing my son is doing(as I know he does his fair share of things), then I ended the note saying, talking to her does no good, because things never change. That I will be talking to the vice-principal this week and discussing all these issues with this class...
Iknow the vice-principal is aware of this class.. But,I need her to know from a very angry parent what I feel about this teacher..
ugh.. nothing like being pregnant, and wanting to rip some heads off in the process..
My 4 year old will starting school this fall and I pray that it goes smoothly. My sister has experienced things with her boys like what you described. My sister finally just went to the school and had a serious talk with the teacher face to face and it seemed to help. I will pray that things will settle down and work out for you and your son. I know it is stressful, especially when it comes to your little ones.
Speaking from an educator's standpoint, you have very valid concerns. My only advice is to go in there with a calm, professional head on your shoulders. Be specific. Use concrete examples to back up what you are saying.
Emphasise that you have tried to voice these concerns with the teacher, but have not gotten a satisfactory result.
Don't attack the teacher, because then it will come off to the VP as a personality conflict. Don't say, "she doesn't like my son" or "she picks on my son" Again give concrete examples of what she's been doing and what she has not done that you feel she should have done.
If you have any specific questions about how to handel the administration (having been on both sides of the fence) I'd be happy to help. You can email me at Mom.me @ verizon . net (No spaces)
Ame is very right, my Mom had the same problems with my brother. She basically did the opposite of what Ame said to do & the teacher wrote some horrible things in my brothers school records. It followed him for a very long time. He is to sensitive, mother uncooperative & makes excuses, doesn't pay attention in class...he was having "staring spells" well it was epilepsy that hadn't been diagnosed.