My mom had an abnormal mammogram...

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My head is spinning. I found out yesterday and I'm just now able to share about it. (Which is odd for me, you know?) Scott is supposed to return next week and all I can think about is my mom's health.
She had an abnormal mammogram result and she is going in for another xray on the 26th. Apparently they say it's REALLY abnormal. Ugh. I wonder why don't they just do a biopsy right away? My brother wants her to not have any chemo if it comes to that. That made me cry...she survived 5 strokes and her body is quite fragile, but I want to have everything done in our power to try to help her. Like I said, my head is spinning. Yesterday, I lied down on our couch and just went into a "Ferris Bueller"-like comatose.

On top of that, I fell at the Des Moines airport and I think my tailbone is either badly bruised or broken. I'm in a lot of pain and can't sit for long. Our road trip to pick up Scott in NC is over 6+ hours. i might have to buy one of those sexy "butt doughnuts". LOL

I'm trying to make myself laugh because it's what Scott would do...

By Kaye on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 02:24 pm:

I understand where your brother is coming from. But honestly, you don't know anything right now. I don't understand why they aren't doing more sooner. It might be worth a call and explain that your hubby is coming home from iraq and you would like to deal with this now.

But once they know more, you will hear your options. There are plenty of things they can do if it cancer. It doesn't have to mean chemo, or radiation. I have a friend here who had a double massectomy and didn't have to do either one.

Hang in there.

For your tailbone, soak your body in some epson salt water. It should help it if it just brused.

By Trina~moderator on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 02:31 pm:

{{{HUGS}}} I'm also surprised they're waiting so long to do further testing. Is there any way to get her in sooner? Also, an "abnormal" mammogram doesn't necessarily mean cancer. Your mom will be in my prayers.

I have bruised my tail bone before and it hurts like heck!

By Breann on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 02:49 pm:

I agree that "abnormal" doesn't necessarily mean cancer. Sometimes the 2nd round of tests come back just fine.
I'm concerned that they think it's "really" abnormal, yet they aren't doing anything about it for nearly a month? A month is a long time to wait on something serious, and it also limits what can be done.

(((hugs)))

By Kittycat_26 on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 02:51 pm:

Take a deep breath and try to keep the horse before the cart.

Find out what is going on after the second mammogram on the 26th and then go from there.

By Nicki on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 03:10 pm:

Oh Heidi, I'm sorry. I'm confused why they are waiting, too. After I had Lara, I had an abnormal mammogram result. They set up an appointment within the following week for a sonogram. The sonogram showed it was a clogged duct. It was a relief to find out fairly quickly. No one wants to wait for these type of results.
You and your mom will be in my thoughts. I hope she can get in sooner. And I hope your tailbone will feel better, soon. Those can hurt something awful.

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 07:06 pm:

She has to wait until the 26th because they didn't have any openings before I leave for NC to meet Scott. I would be driving her. I don't want her to get this done without me. After talking further with my brother, who took care of her a few years ago, said that he "knew". Apparently she had a lump and he noticed it when he was bathing her but didn't get it tested NOR did he tell me.
I'm steaming...I know it's hard to take care of everything, especially for a parent, but that's something you get tested for right away.

By Bellajoe on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 07:16 pm:

((((HEIDI)))) I'm sorry. I hope everything comes out o.k.

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - 08:13 pm:

I also know I shouldn't say this, but I wish I had found it while bathing her too.

By Cat on Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 09:20 am:

{{{{{Heidi}}}}} Let us know what happens.

By Kateg on Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 10:35 am:

{{{{{Heidi}}}}} Just thinking of you & praying for you.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 12:19 pm:

((((Heidi)))) Just take it easy.. Remember to breath. And take one minute at a time.. I know you have to be on the verge of a break down, but this is all out of your hands and you have to just try to focus on the important issues.. Your mom sounds like she is fairly sick in general.. Maybe your brother just wanted her to live in peace.. Doctors appointments and the stress of illness is so hard on a body.. Poking, prodding and pain... I know this is all so emotionally hard.. But know we are here and we will listen.. You need to focus on mom and on keeping peace in you...

Your brother most likely did what he thought was right, letting her live in peace, comfort and letting her go.. You say she "she survived 5 strokes and her body is quite fragile", sounds like your mom has been through a lot of pain in her life.. Maybe he didn't want her to go through more.....

Heidi, you are in my thoughts and prayers... And I am storming heaven for your mom....

......Big HUGS, Heidi......

By Yjja123 on Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 01:43 pm:

You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers!

By Justanaunt on Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 02:48 pm:

{{{Heidi}}}