Cranky Neighbor (long)
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Cranky Neighbor (long)
On Saturday, Gary went out of town to get someone's new computer and DSL set-up. He called when he left, and when he got to the edge of town, and then a few minutes later the phone rings again. I wonder what he could possibly want, just a few minutes later, since he had to be almost home. Well, he told Emily, who answered the phone, that their was a rainbow. So, we go racing up the stairs, kids get their cameras, and we all go outside! It was nearly time for sunset and the sky was gorgeous! The rainbow was huge and down near the horizon, it was sooo bright! Then I turn around and notice that even though the sky is cloudy, the colors are just gorgeous. So, the kids are taking pictures of the rainbow in the eastern sky and the pretty clouds, in the western sky. So far, no problem.
Throughout all of this, we had noticed that our neighbor kitty-corner across the street, was in the front yard with his 4-wheeler and he is revving the motor to beat the band and the whole time looking at us. DH, who was home by this time, is looking over there too, and wondering what the heck is his problem.
So, DH goes in the house. Then the neighbor makes some comment about our dog not being on a leash. She is in our yard, unleashed and just standing there, not bothering anyone, other than being excited when we all ran outside. So, I just go in the house, but once in the house, I rant about the 4-wheeler noise.
Then DH goes over to kindly ask him to not rev his motor so much. The neighbor apparently goes all ballistic on him and was dropping F-bombs left and right and not listening to DH. I was kind of peeking through the window watching. DH comes home and says, "He wants to talk to you. He thinks we called the cops." I go across the street to talk to him. He accuses us of calling the cops. Even though, we had contemplated calling the cops, we had never actually done it. The neighbor doesn't believe us and is dropping F-bombs to me too. (f-word. f-bomb is my kids' term for it.)
He makes a comment about how we were taking pictures of him! Good grief. I try to explain that my kids were taking pictures of the rainbow and the sunset and he makes some comment about "yeah, sure" only not as nice. I turn around and storm home. Then I DO call the cops, because he won't listen to reason and won't listen to us. Sheesh.
He'd also made a comment, that if he sees our dog out loose, he is going to take her to the Humane Society, since she should be on a leash.
Anyway, the cop shows up. We tell our side of the story, that we didn't call the cops originally, that the kids were shooting pictures of nature, not the neighbor and his threat about the dog. He'd also said he could make as much noise as he wanted, as long as it was before 10pm.
The cop told us, that as long as the dog is in our yard and under verbal control, she doesn't have to be on a leash. Certainly, if she leaves the yard for a walk, she is on a leash. He also tells us, that if noise is disturbing someone, it's disturbing the peace, even before 10pm. He says he will go talk to the neighbor, then.
A few minutes later, the doorbell rings again. It's the cop and the neighbor and the neighbor, who is apologizing and willing to shake hands. He said he'd had a bad day. Well, yeah, I guess so! Apparently he races the 4-wheeler.
On Sunday, his fiance comes over and wants to hear our side of the story and admits he can be kind of a hothead sometimes, and that the cops told them he can run the 4-wheeler in the yard, as long as it's not in the street. He's also going to be using it more, not the racing season started. Oh joy. Apparently, they want to move to the country sometime, but can't right now.
I guess one can be more understanding when one has a little more information. We were just so annoyed with him that he wouldn't believe us, that we hadn't called the cops orginally. We really needed a mediator. The girlfriend also told him he should be nice to us, since we are nice neighbors and Gary sometimes helps with snow removal. (he does!) She has lived here longer than he has, since she was married to someone else for a while. I don't think I would consider that guy marriage material, because he seems to have a worse temper than my DH and he smokes.
The girlfriend, says that it was his brother, who was also there, that thought the kids were taking pictures of them. Also, the call to the cops had taken place last February! I had thought it was more recent. Anyway, the February call WASN'T us.
I hope that things are all better. I told the girlfriend, as far as I was concerned, everything was good. We'll try to be understanding about the 4-wheeler and hope that it's sooner than later, that they can move to the country!
Thanks for reading this far. I'm finally in a house by myself. I wanted to type this up without anyone looking over my shoulder!
What a pain! Neighbors like that are not fun. What a dope thinking you were all standing out there taking pictures of him. That's sort of funny even, lol.
I hope he doesn't cause any more problems.
So, where are the pics of this rainbow???!!
I posted pics in the Photo Sharing section! I know, isn't that funny, that he thought the world revolved so much around him?
Ugh....that's so annoying. It's so frustrating to spend so much money on a house, get settled in, and then be at the whim of your neighbors... Even if you have GREAT neighbors, they could move! And you never know who will move in. It's kinda scary! We have new neighbors I'm not at all thrilled about. However, just a year ago I had no complaints...again, it's all the whim of neighbors moving in and out over which you have no control. YOU could move, but again you have no idea what you'd be getting into. Frustrating!
I will never understand neighbors who rev up their engines or are loud period. We have a neighbor across the street who apparently refuses to stop their car alarm and also revs up his motorcycle. It's SOOO annoying. I can also hear their phone ring and all of their windows are closed. They are a loud family and we can't wait to move!
Sorry you guys are having to go through all this! He sounds very narcissistic.
Ugh, Dawn sounds like that guy is crazy, I'd keep my distance.
My neighbour didn't speak to me for a year, they thought I complained to the city about them. Their yard is a dump, they have two dumpy cars in the driveway, one with 2 flat tires, we even had to buy a tarp for the second car as it's just a frame and we were trying to sell our house. They had a vicious dog which pinned me up against my house when I was 3 months pregnant with Matthew. I yelled at the dog and the owner to keep his gate closed and then I went into the house and cried my eyes out I was so frightened. They used to leave their dog alone and go away for the weekend, they had a doggy door and the dog would bark all night long. If anyone had reason to call the city on them it was me, but I didn't. Funny they would talk to DH but not me.
I found out recently that the lady next door, her sister is dying of cancer so I helped her get a wig at a very good price. Since then they talk to me now and we have finally figured out who complained about them but the damage is done, even if were we not moving we would never be good neighbours again.
It just sucks that people have to be that way.
Oh the complaints I could make about my neighbor.. I am done dealing with her and now I am praying to move.. We have lived here 13 years and as long as I am doing something for her all is good. But I have been not able to do for myself let alone her for over a year now because of my back and she has been nothing but nasty. The bad part is, she knows that I have some serious back issues and that I spent most of last winter on my back.. But did she care?? NO, I didn't shovel her snow and she couldn't get out. I want to move SOOO bad.. Anyway, hopefully he will get over himself and leave you alone.. What an jerk..
Hopefully, he will realize we aren't bad people. Sheesh, he's a loose cannon. We have lived here since 1996. I can't remember anymore when Ch**** moved in, with her ex-husband. Maybe it's been like 4 years. The fiance has only been around a little over a year. I know he was here in the winter last year. Everything blurs together after a while.
Once we were out walking the dog and he was cooking steaks and it smelled so good, and we had a little smalltalk, at that time. Otherwise, we really haven't even talked to him, that much. I thought the ex was nice and I kind of missed him, so when the new honey showed up, I didn't have much to say.