Moms View Message Board: General Discussion: Mother's Day
Well a week from today is mother's day. We celebrate mother's day like a birthday or Christmas. Definitely a priority. What are you all doing. I've been distracted this year and haven't planned that well.
I celebrate my mom and other special moms in our family like my sister-in-law. We usually go out with the kids and the moms. The kids usually make cards for the grandmoms.
Mother's day is not a happy day around here any more. After losing my mil, none of the holidays feel right anymore. But since I have to do something, I will probably invite my mother and sister up and have a cookout or a brunch or something like that.
Mother's day can be very hard when it reminds you of such a great loss. I'm sorry. Its great that you are affirming the other special women in your life. I hope there is some comfort in having the 2 of them together with you on Sunday. You are also to be celebrated as a mom - someone irreplacable who means so much to those around you. Happy Mother's Day.
I'm really hurt . I do everything that I can to help my children when they need me.Not at all for show, but because I love them and thats what mothers are supposed to do.I always fill in for my DD if and when she can't make it to a school function;I go to ALL of the kids special events if possible.My DD and family moved out of state (almost on a whim) and 3 months later wanted to come home(she has never done anything like that before so this is not indicative to her life's patterns)so we let all 5 of them move in w/us in a very small house.Because they were literally starting over from scratch,we didn't charge them anything except they had to buy food (and many times we bought the food).And we are not wealthy people,we barely scrape by.We gave them quite a bit of money prior to and after the move,and very little has been repaid.We do as much for the other's too.So, my mothers day "gift" from my dd was a TEXT (by the way,on the phone service that is in MY name !)and a phone call at 4:30 this afternoon !! It's not at all that I didn't get a gift,but I feel so hurt that there was no special honor or recognition of what this day is all about.My son called this morning and wished me a HMD, as they were ENROUTE to a restaurant !! Then,as a seemingly second thought, he said "you want to meet us there?" Maybe this was wrong, but I said no because I hadn't even showered ,and it hurt me that it wasn't a real invitation,but a second thought.After their meal, they came to my house for a short visit.It was rather awkward,because they knew that they had hurt my feelings.Please understand,I'm a quite person when it comes to saying how I feel about things.I don't interfere in my childrens lives,and I'm not a type mother that argues with them.Again,I just don't want you all to get the wrong idea here.Anyway, after my DS and family left, they came back about 30 mins later with some flowers !! Again, another second thought action.I'm sorry to be rattling on so much...if you have made it here to this point, thank you! I'm just so hurt !And Christmas is the same way. You would not believe all the things that my DH does for them,from wayyyy-too-much (free)auto repairs,to home repairs,to rescues on the side of the road w/car troubles no matter what time of day or night it is.Again,I'm sorry and I hope this is coming out alright.I'm just so hurt and this happens EVERY holiday,almost.We have really cut back on the amount of things that we do for them,but even that is kind of sad.I don't mind helping them out when they need it...and making them feel special on their special days...but DH and I would like to RECIEVE sometimes too! Thanks for letting me vent
Thanks for courageously sharing your feelings.
None of us likes to be taken for granted. Reminds me not to do that with those close to me who do so much.
Sorry they did that. But at least you know what to expect from now on.
I would not let them hurt my feelings. It isn't worth it. If that is all they will do then I would just expect that next time. I haven't noticed that people change much.
Some kids are much much worse.