ME
The big 3-9
I started my morning with coffee and cannolis that Jessica made me. Yum!

Now I am going to spend the day working on a stained glass panel.
~Yvonne~

By Dawnk777 on Saturday, August 23, 2008 - 03:42 pm:

Happy Birthday!

By Crystal915 on Saturday, August 23, 2008 - 09:12 pm:

Happy Birthday, Yvonne!!!!!!

By Yjja123 on Saturday, August 23, 2008 - 09:30 pm:

Thanks!

By Conni on Saturday, August 23, 2008 - 09:43 pm:

HAppy Birthday!!!!

By Annie2 on Sunday, August 24, 2008 - 08:52 am:

Happy Birthday!!!

By Karen~admin on Sunday, August 24, 2008 - 08:59 am:

OOPS! Sorry Yvonne, did not see this yesterday.

Happy 39th to you!!! Hope you had a great day!

By Yjja123 on Sunday, August 24, 2008 - 01:46 pm:

I finished my stained glass panel. You can see it on my blog (see my profile). It is of Kauai.
I didn't get it framed in time so it is a close-up and doesn't show all the detail. I had to finish it for my glass guild contest.
My hubby cooked some yummy steak for dinner. Addison made garlic bread and salad and we had Jessica's cannolis.
The kids made me cards and Jessica made a special scrapbook. Her card was sweet. She wrote "I know I can be a witch sometimes (part of being a teenager) but still you love me. You are always there for us and I love you mom. You are the best!"
Awwwww....

By Debbie on Sunday, August 24, 2008 - 03:53 pm:

Happy Birthday! Sounds like you had a great day!!

By Angellew on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 11:41 am:

A day late... but... HAPPY BIRTHDAY YVONNE!!!

By Rayelle on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 12:07 pm:

Late here too- Happy Birthday!

By Bemerry84 on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 01:00 pm:

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY YVONNE

By Yjja123 on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 01:53 pm:

Thank you everyone! I needed that today. My sister, for the second year in a row!, forgot my birthday. I know she does it to be hurtful. She resents me, my life, etc. I am trying hard not to let it get to me. I have to let go of the idea of having a close relationship with her. It just isn't going to happen.

By Karen~admin on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 04:24 pm:

{{{{{{{{Yvonne}}}}}}}}}

By Conni on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 08:14 pm:

Uh-oh, I'm sorry...that really stinks! You do have an awesome dd, ds and dh though. It's kind of a compliment that she is jealous of you and your wonderful family/life in a round about way. ?? But no excuse for a sister to "forget" your birthday. A phone call and a simple "Happy Birthday" from your sister, isn't too much to ask for. {{{Hugs}}}

By Yjja123 on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 09:45 pm:

I would have been happy with an email. The fact that she cannot be bothered (2 years in a row) is a slap in the face. I am tired of being the one on the giving end---always. I am going to work harder on changing my response to these things. It simply is not worth the tears.
I refuse to stoop to her level, so I will continue sending cards, etc. I believe that what you put out in the world comes back to you. Maybe she is miserable because she is that way towards everyone?
OK...enough venting...

By Wandilu on Monday, August 25, 2008 - 10:54 pm:

Happy belated birthday !!!!!!

By Bobbie~moderatr on Tuesday, August 26, 2008 - 12:14 am:

Happy belated birthday from me too...

By Karen~admin on Tuesday, August 26, 2008 - 12:38 pm:

"I am going to work harder on changing my response to these things. It simply is not worth the tears. I refuse to stoop to her level, so I will continue sending cards, etc. I believe that what you put out in the world comes back to you. Maybe she is miserable because she is that way towards everyone."

Yvonne, you said it all right there. You are not responsible for the way she feels or acts. And it appears that the dynamics of your relationship with her have always been that YOU are the giver and the one who initiates contact, and she is content to leave it that way.

I know it's hurtful - how could it NOT be??

But I agree, you need to work on changing the way YOU react and respond. It's toxic. Once you can change your own reactions and expectations, you will likely feel better about the (lack of) relationship you have with her.

I would probably do the same thing - continue to send cards, etc. I also believe in Karma. You do the right thing and behave in a way that YOU can live with, inside yourself.

I think the hurt will always be there for you, even if in just a small way. She is family, and family is who you ultimately count on and expect the most from, when no one else is there. But you realize that she is apparently never going to reach out to you, like you hope she will.

So changing the way YOU react to it and let it affect YOU is the only way to go. Kudos to you - this is a hard thing to do, but I can promise you, once you do that, you will be able to let go of a lot of the hurt and anger that you must feel. If only SHE could let go of whatever she is feeling.....but you can't control that.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}