I was SO SURE this time. Two weeks or so before my period (so right after, IYKWIM), I had cramps, the most sore chest, all sorts of feelings that were out of the ordinary - and then nausea!

I was kind of looking forward to posting my news here. And I'm not much for betting, but I was sure enough to tell my DH last night, on a rare date night. He said I probably wasn't, but I almost convinced him.

I was 4 days to '.' so I thought I'd try a test when we got home from our date. Negative, but still early.

Today, my '.' started. (Why is it that after taking an EPT test, I always get my '.' the very next day? Those things aren't cheap! It seems like such a waste.)

Anyway, I'm sure I'm not the only one going through this. There are probably other boards that deal specifically with this issue, but I like the company here. Can someone else share some disappointment stories just so I don't feel so alone? Thanks...

By Christylee on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 12:07 am:

Don't have a story to share, but do have a ((HUG)). I'm sorry you were so hopeful and it didn't happen this time. How long have you been trying?

(((Laurazee)))

ps.. our sons are really close in age, my son Brendan was born 2-9-01.

By Kaseys on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 12:12 am:

ME ME ME!!!!!!! We are also ttc and it can be so frustrating!! I know how dissapointing it can be to go to the bathroom and find that lovely visitor.. It's like a slap in the face isn't it.. Please feel free to email me anytime at mkshowle@bellsouth.net.. In the meantime, hang in there and don't give up!! Hugs to you..

By Laurazee on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 01:19 am:

Re. How long - I just realized that I've been hoping to conceive for 2 years, and that's from doing a search on "TTC" on this very board! I found some of my old posts where I admitted I was TTC,(almost to the date, lol). I didn't even think it was that long. Time flies?

But really trying in earnest for three or so months, maybe. For various reasons, it didn't work out to try until recently.

Thanks Christylee & Kaseys. The upside is that my DH is feeling pretty loveable and closer to me lately.

Wonder if there are stages of TTC like the 5 stages of grief (e.g. denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance)

I'd guess the TTC stages are (1) Blind faith/cocksure (no pun intended and I'm sorry if that even hints of vulgarity), (2) Uncertainty, (3) Been-there-done-that and here-we-go-again, (4) Desperation, & (5) Acceptance. (Then hopefully after that "Surprise! 2 lines!!")

I'm somewhere between #2 & #3, I think

By Kolbysmom on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 08:41 am:

We were TTC for almost 11 months. It seemed like it never failed: I'd test and the next day I would start. In July I decided maybe we were only supposed to have one child. I even thought, maybe that would be better! Then, the first week of September, I had 1 test left and decided to use it...and it was positve. I'm now almost 13 weeks. I really really think TTC puts a lot of stress on your body and when you decide to take a break, that's usually when it will happen!

By Karen~moderator on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 10:26 am:

{{{{{{{{Laura}}}}}}}

By Rayanne on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 11:08 am:

I know that it's easier said then done, but try to relax. Don't think about it. Just let things happen and don't do the deed just to do it. Have fun and don't think about the end results. When the time is right, it will happen. (((((HUGS)))))

By Laurazee on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 11:31 pm:

Glad to hear the success stories. I hope it will work out for me (and if it does you'll see lots of happy faces and such from me on this board!). Thx for the support.

By Trina~moderator on Saturday, October 30, 2004 - 11:42 pm:

More {{{HUGS}}} Laura. It took almost 2 yrs. to conceive our first baby. Oh man, what an emotional roller coaster! I couldn't take it any longer and threw in the towel. No more charting basal temps, no more calculating ovulation, no more "We have to do it NOW" love making. We decided to give up trying and just go about life as usual. What a relief it was to not worry about it any longer! Phew! A few months later my breasts were sore. I shrugged it off because I had already BTDT and figured I couldn't be pregnant. Then my period was a week late. OK, so maybe I should take an EPT. I bought one and took it fully expecting it to be negative. I was *SHOCKED* that it wasn't!! In our case, as Kasey mentioned above, stress did us in. We were trying too hard! LOL!

*~*~*~*~Baby Vibes~*~*~*~* coming your way!

By Hdelfuego on Monday, November 1, 2004 - 07:59 am:

HI! We have been using fertility meds for four months. We quit for now until January so we could enjoy the holidays and save some more money. Fertility treatments for January are going to cost about $1200. We had to do treatments to get pg with Emma too, but not this advanced. I really think I'm in the acceptance stage, but it would be nice if I would get pg and my dh really wants it too. I guess I've just accepted that I might have an only child and count my blessings that she's a happy healthy baby.

Trina, I completely understand...that's exactly what I'm doing right now. It really does feel good not to chart and time everything. I don't have to prop my hips with a pillow anymore or have sex every morning at 5am or take meds or ultrasounds or bloodtest or injections....atleast not for the next couple of months!
The thing is that we are going to go full force with fertility treatments again in Jan, Feb, Mar and then that's it for good. It's kind of sad but almost a relief not that I won't have another baby, but that the trying will be over! I believe we've been trying too hard too!

After a while I guess you kind of get that
"Oh well" attitude. "We tried everything, and life goes on". I'm not giving up. I'm just going to get on with my life and enjoying Emma and not letting TTC rule my life.
Good luck everybody else!

By Kittycat_26 on Monday, November 1, 2004 - 08:23 am:

This is the first place I've even ventured to say this out loud. My dh and I are officially TTC. I had my IUD removed last week.

No one even knows that we are considering another baby after the horrible experience with Timmy. It took me some time to get over it and even know I'm pretty nervous that we'll have a repeat version but that wasn't the question.

Yes, we've just started trying. Baby vibes to all.