Well my pain has not decreased at all and I had a nervous break down yesturday. I can't play with my child, I have a hard time takeing him to school and picking him up. My house is a disaster! I LOVE to clean. I am OBSESSED with vacumeing, and I tried to vacume yesturday and it hurt too bad to stand that long. I haven't been intamate with my DH in a month. All this just got to me bad last night and I cried for an hour. I couldn't even get into the other room to get my Lap-Top so I could talk to ya all about it. So I got into the Family Practice Clinic today and they said that they feel that they can no longer do anything for me. So their refering me to a ob/gyn. I have to wait for them to call me to see when I can get in. They also gave me some pain Killers until I can get in. They gave me 7.5/500 Hydrocodones. At least they gave me something real for my pain instead of Naproxin sodium. Any way may-be, I will get this taken care of. I have been begging for them to do something for so long. Oh ya, and get this, my pap from last week came back with A typical cells with squamious intrapathelial lessions at the medium to high pre cervical cancer risk. And I lost 5 pound in 10 days, I now weigh 93lbs!!!!! I have been in so much pain that it makes me sick to my stomach and when you feel like your gonna get sick the last thing you wanna do is eat. I CAN NOT afford to loose anymore weight. Someone please tell me everything will be ok, and if ya have any tips on gaining weight they would be EXTREAMLY APPRECIATED!!!!! Thanks in advance everyon, you always come through.

By Kristie on Wednesday, October 27, 2004 - 11:08 pm:

oh ya and another thing, my mom is freaking out about the weight loss and sending me all kinds of info off the internet about anarexia (sp) and telling me that DH must be blind not to see "the signs" of my problem and needs to make me eat!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!

By Missmudd on Wednesday, October 27, 2004 - 11:21 pm:

Oh goodness hugs to you, I would try milkshakes, when I was too pukey to eat w/ one of my kids it was the only thing I could hold down, maybe it would help you. I am sorry I dont know your history but hope that by seeing an obgyn that they will be able to diagnose what your pain is. And if you dont get an answer that you can live w/ or they dont treat you the way you wish to be treated, fire them, you are the employer they are the employee. Nobody should be in so much pain that they are not eating, at the very least pain control then figure out whats wrong. Please keep everyone updated.

By Emily7 on Thursday, October 28, 2004 - 12:55 am:

{{{{Kristie}}}}
My brother uses milkshakes as well. You could try something like boost or ensure.
I would gladly give you some of my extra weight.
I hope that you are able to get some help soon.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Thursday, October 28, 2004 - 01:41 am:

boost or ensure for sure. My mother in law has issues with holding weight and she has gained 20 pounds in four months just drinking two a day but she also eats regular meals.

I really hope that you can get in soon. I am a bit concerned with the way this has been handled. Just nonsense. Please keep us posted as soon as you find out anything.

By Feona on Thursday, October 28, 2004 - 06:23 am:

Was this a cyst causing the problem. You seem alittle light to me. I would try the ensure.

Can you go to a speicalist? Maybe they can tell you when the end of the pain is. If You know how long it would last you would feel better.

Don't vacuum!

By Kristie on Friday, October 29, 2004 - 12:14 am:

Well the OB/GYN they refered me to called today. The soonest they can get me in is Nov. 22 at 1:50pm. Their gonna do a colposcopy and biopsy of my cervix, find out where the lesions are and what grade of cancer they are, if they are cancerous, wich they always are so I'm prepared for that. The nurse was really nice and compasionate while I was crying on the phone. She told me I could talk to the Dr. about payments and that they would do their best to help me. Then she switched me to the receptionist to set an appointment, then the phone call got bad. She asked for my home phone # and I gave it to her, then she asked for my work #. I told her that I don't have a job and she said OH, REALLY in a very rude voice. I told her that I have been a SAHM for 5 yrs and my son just entered scholl then these problems started and I can't work. Then she says, "well are you married then?" I said yes, (calmly as I could) and gave her Alberts name. Then she said, "And I suppose you don't have any insurance." I told her no but the nurse said I can talk to the Dr. about payments. (is it just me or was she being a word that we are not suppose to use on here?) Then she says "Well you do realize that because you are a new patient that we HAVE to have full payment for your first visit at the time you are seen at that will be $121, and you can make payments on the colposcopy procedure and Labs but we need the $121 that day. If you can't give us that then we may have to reschedule for a later time when you can afford it."
Was that a way I should be treated just because I'm not made of money! 99% of people I know are one paycheck away from poverty just like me! I can't "reshedule it for when I can afford it" If this cyst on my ovary bursts it could kill me. If the cells on my cervix are cancer and they spread (wich cervical cancer cell on your cervix do VERY quickly, thats why it is very important you get your annual paps ladies) then I'm Still screwed. What do people do when they have medical problems and don't have insurance or money. Do they just die or what. I know I am being a major drama Queen but I am scared. My DH and DS need me. And DH has just about had it. If he goes with me to the ER again or to the Dr. and they don't do something to help me I'll be posting you guys about how much his bail is cuz he'll go to jail. He is past fed up with watching me in pain and I can tell he is hurting right along with me. (ya know men are fixers and he can't help me)
GOOD NEWS!! MY MOM CALLED AND SHE'S GIVEING ME THE $120!! She said she would try any way and that normally means she'll get it. Still, this won't be my only appointment.
Oh, ya thanks for the weight gaining advice. I should let you all know that I don't drink milk. I'm not allergic I just can't stand the tast and I heard those Ensure things tast like milk. I don't even like flavored milk. YUCK!! I do drinks shakes if they are thick and love ice cream, I just hate milk.
Any way thanks again Ladies for letting me go on and on. I just don't want to vent and freak out to DH cuz he's already worried enuff, you all are like my shrinks!!!

By Emily7 on Friday, October 29, 2004 - 12:22 am:

Put the ensure or boost in the milkshake to hide the taste, that is what my brother does.
Continued thoughts for you.
I am glad your mom is going to be able to help you.

By Kristie on Friday, October 29, 2004 - 12:42 am:

Thanks Emily, I never thought about mixing them with shakes. I'll have to try that. There is also some thing my best friend that works at the pharmacy said that people who loose weight on chemo try. Its like $7 for 4 drinks though. But if nothing else works I'll try it.

By Missmudd on Friday, October 29, 2004 - 12:07 pm:

About the office staff at the GYN, call the nurse again and COMPLAIN! Just because you are not made of $ does not mean you are not entitled to be treated with human dignaty. If your doc works for a non profit religious entity like the Catholics, Baptists, Lutherans or if your medical center is a community based group talk to someone in the business office w/ a soul. Ask to talk to the self pay specialist. Non profits are required to provide a certain amount of charity care. I know because I used to work in the business office of our community non profit hospital. I know that our hospital actually provided no interest loans on balances if a patient could not pay, or if their income was low enough we would right off the whole thing. We figured that if it takes us 20 years to get a bill paid it is much better than forcing a family into bankruptcy when we would never get paid. If we wrote off the bill than we would not be spending time throwing good money after bad. And it was a nice thing to do. Check your local medicaid, in oregon if you have a catastrophic illness or pregnancy the normal income requirements are different. Also if you are over income for free coverage under your states medicaid you may be able to get it for a small premium a month, I seem to remember under $50 for a family in oregon. You may have to swim in a sea of paperwork to get this accomplished but you will at least have some control over your financial destiny. Financial stress does not need to be added to your current emotional stress. Also if you live in a major metro, see if their is a university hospital. Some people think that these are a bad place to go but actually you would have a number of different people looking at your problem and working as a team to treat you. And usually the docs at the university hospitals are the best in their field. I would think that they provide charity care also. If you dont have any non profits in your area, see if your doc will provide charity care, they may be willing to do it for a tax write off. Hope this helps

By Karen~moderator on Friday, October 29, 2004 - 05:10 pm:

Almost every doctor's office I have been in the past few years requires payment when services are rendered - they have now taken to collecting your copay or payment BEFORE you even are taken back to a room!

While I understand they have procedures to follow, I'm almost certain they do have payment options for you.

However, it's common practice for a new patient to have to pay the first visit in full at that time.

I had the same GYN for years until he died. He delivered all 4 of my kids. When I was pregnant with Jen, we were in a VERY tight spot financially. This was before copays, etc. He had hired a horrible accounting person and she insisted we pay the delivery up front, several months before my due date. We just plain did not have it - we were living from paycheck to paycheck and then, just barely. X called her and had a conversation with her and when he got off the phone, we had a monthly payment plan, so you should be able to get something like that.

As far as the way she treats you, you deserve to be treated with respect, and if you aren't then complain!

Good luck!