As most of you already know my husbands unit has already suffered some losses. There is a memorial for one of the Marines on Friday and I have bought the wife a card but I don't know how to word it. She was one of our main Key Volunteers for the unit and a part of the Caring Circle (a group of wives that get togeather when someone is sick or just had a baby and makes meals, provides transportation, etc) I have gotten to know her through these 2 groups. I wouldn't say we are "friends" but we are not just "aquaintances" either. Any how, The card reads...
On Front:
Where there is sorrow, let there be comfort, where there is pain, let here be strength, where there is darkness let their be love to light your way.
In Side:
With deepest sympathy for your loss.

I want to do more than just sign our names to this card. How do I word it? I want to let her know that I am here for her should she ever need anything.
TIA

By Christylee on Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 09:41 pm:

I would just tell her how sorry you are for her loss and that you are proud of the guys including her husband. There are no words to make her feel better right now but knowing there are people there when she needs them will help in the long run I'm sure. I wouldn't say a whole lot if it were me, just I'm here when you neeed me.

Sometimes when you're dealing with a loss your "close" friends are helpful but sometimes someone a little more "distant" is even more helpful because they aren't as emotionally involved.

By Kate on Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 10:12 pm:

'Jane', we are so sorry for your loss. 'Jack' was an amazing man and he will be very much missed. (if your husband knows him I would mention something like ''Gary' always mentioned how Jack was the encourager of the group' or 'Jack was always the first to share his care packages' or whatever your husband can come up with) 'Please know we are here for you and and want to help in any way we can. You and your family have been in our thoughts and prayers and will remain so.'

By Cocoabutter on Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 10:24 pm:

I know how frustrated you must be (I am not a military wife) about the losses we have incurred in this war thus far. I would like to express to you what I would say if I were giving a card say, to a friend of mine ( I have several who have sons/daughters in the military) who had lost a family member in service to his/her country.

"I want you to know how deeply I appreciate the sacrifice you and your husband have made for our country, for our security, and for me. I take these sacrifices very personally because I know that their mission is to make this land a safer place for me and my child(ren) to live and raise families. Please know that you are in my prayers today and every day."

By Cocoabutter on Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 10:26 pm:

BTW, the front of the card is perfectly beautiful, IMO.

By Bea on Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 01:37 am:

By Vicki on Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 08:36 am:

Honestly, I would just write from the heart. It will sound more personal and I am sure it will be beautiful and very meaningful to her. Don't worry about the right things to say...there really are not "right" things. A message from your heart to hers will be perfect.

By Insaneusmcwife on Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 09:04 am:

Thank You ladies! Bea, I'm going to print up the poem and include it with the card.

By Bea on Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 06:35 pm: