I have worked at the same job for 2 years.I am a baker at the only coffee house in town, not a big place, but , very popular.The boss is very hyper and bossy,hateful.I had never worked outside the home before so, this was very new to me.I guess I am not used to someone fussing at me every minute of the day,she tells me I am great at my job,she doesn't know what she would do without me,but, then turns around and yells at me because she thinks I put a little to many blueberries on top of the muffins.I don't mean just a little hateful, I mean ••••• hateful.For the last 2 months my blood pressure has gone through the roof.I am now on meds. My doctor told me to just calm down.My sons think I am nuts,I cry alot.My husband wants me to quit,my mom and daughter also.The money part would be tight,but, you know you always work it out somehow.I have talked to her alot in the last week about how stressed I am, she says, if its bothering her store, I need to stop it.BIG hearted women....ha ha ha.I don't know , maybe I just needed to vent,I miss being a sahm and I guess I am just looking for a reason to stay home.Thanks for the ears.

By Karen~moderator on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 11:49 am:

I'd quit.

By Ginny~moderator on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 11:57 am:

I would quit too. This woman isn't going to change and if it is harming your health, I don't think you have any alternative. Your dh and the rest of your family are urging you to quit, so give her notice and get out of that situation. High blood pressure is a serious health hazard and you don't want to risk a heart attack or stroke because of this nasty person.

By Sue3 on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 12:21 pm:

I`d quit also.

By Colette on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 12:24 pm:

Absolutely quit.

By Rayanne on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 01:01 pm:

QUIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

By Mommyathome on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 01:54 pm:

Quit
And be sure to tell her why!

By Ilovetom on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 02:09 pm:

Blueberries just aren't worth it.

I vote quit.

By Audreyj on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 02:21 pm:

Quit.

Then, buy some yummy coffee and muffins and start an office coffee supply from your home. Lots of offices pay good money to have someone (good) come in and leave great coffee brewing and wonderful muffins and they are a lot more appreciative too. And you could have a small business from home to help your income. Not only that, but if the **ugly** mannered lady is your only competition and you deliver....guess who will show the most profit??!! If you are "the only baker" in the only coffee house in town and it's very popular, guess why? Because you are the baker! Maybe you are undervaluting your cooking talents. And a little "friendly competition" is a healthy thing, right? Make some muffins at home, start with a few dozen and I'll be you'll find a "market" for them sooner than you think!

That's my vote. AJ

By Jelygu on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 03:27 pm:

I like Audrey's idea!

By Joy~bundles on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 05:04 pm:

Definitely quit!!! No one needs to put up with that. You'll be so relieved once you quit and you'll probably wonder why you didn't do it sooner!!! And you'll never regret going back to SAHM status, guaranteed!!

By Mommmie on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 05:12 pm:

Where I work we had a young employee who was quite stressed bec she worked for difficult people and it got to the point where she was put on medication. Some other co-workers and I agreed that if a job ever resulted in us going on anti-anxiety medication, then it's Just Not Worth It. That's the point we would quit. That's a deal breaker.

Quit. For your health. For your sanity.

By Melanie on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 06:49 pm:

Another vote to quit!

By Gammiejoan on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 07:53 pm:

Definitely quit! And I love AJ's suggestion!

By Pamt on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 08:03 pm:

Another vote for quitting.

By Imamommyx4 on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 08:48 pm:

Quit!

And do something fun like Audrey said. Where I work, drug reps are always bringing us desserts and breakfast stuff made by a lady and her daughter out of her house. One good job could make up the difference in your household's money.

And money does not make the world go round. I made really good money as a full-time pharmacist. But after I had my beautiful dd at age 39, it got to where it wasn't worth it. A friend babysat for the first year who had 3 kids of her own. Then her husband lost his job and she had to go back to work (my babysitting money wasn't near enough) and I had babysitting issues. I refused to put her in daycare. So I cut back to part-time which was a dramatic cut in our household budget. But, it's funny how all the bills still get paid, we still have fun, and I don't miss the extra money! And I am much happier. I use to cry all the way to work, at work and dart out of work the first absolute second I could. I was not nice at home, etc. I love being home with my dh.

QUIT!!!!! But be professional about it. Offer 2 weeks notice unless she gets ugly about it. And I'm all for not burning bridges. I have found way to often I still need to cross that bridge.

Best wishes.

By Janet on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 08:59 pm:

I agree...quit, but give her notice. Also realize that your boss is likely to be even more nasty after you give her your notice (she sounds extremely unprofessional). I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience. The money may be tighter, but if this has made your health go south, you are definitely NOT ahead! Good luck!

By Kernkate on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 11:06 pm:

Ditto on what everyone else said!! 2 weeks notice and I would be out...your health isn't worth any kind of money in the world.

By Robyn on Monday, September 13, 2004 - 11:12 am:

I agree...quit!

By Kathym on Monday, September 13, 2004 - 01:33 pm:

I agree with everyone..quit !

By Theresa_Momma on Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:22 am:

QUIT, I would never stay if it put me on medicene. Anyway if you are such a wonder baker I agree you should venture out on your own.

By Theresa_Momma on Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:23 am:

QUIT, I would never stay if it put me on medicene. Anyway if you are such a wonderful baker I agree you should venture out on your own.

By John on Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 05:28 am:

I agree with everyone here.

Don't be suprised at the following when you tell her you are quitting:

She tells you you are the best baker in the world and offers you a big raise if only you'll stay!

She apologizes and maybe cries, and promises to treat you better if only you'll stay.

OR She lashes out at you angerly and claims YOU will be responsible for ruining her business, trying to make you feel guilty about leaving.

She sounds like an extremely selfish individual who likes to control people.

Don't buy any of it...Get away from this person.

By Janet on Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:26 pm:

I would lay money on the lashing out response, John...sounds like she's at about the mentality of a junior high girl. But I hope not, for Lori's sake!

By Rayanne on Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:50 pm:

Have you decided what you are going to do?

By Cocoabutter on Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 12:46 am:

Quit! Quit! Quit!

YOU are more important to your family than you are to HER!

SHE needs you more than YOU need HER!

I wouldn't even give her 2 weeks' notice! I would Call her up and tell her I'm not coming back! But, That's me.

So what if she wouldn't give you a good review for a future job? She gave you a job knowing you had little or no work experience. Someone else would, too! That is, unless you go into biz for yourself!

By Eight_Kids on Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 07:47 am:

I really like Audrey's idea. I think I'd quit and seriously look into that!!!
Good luck!!

By Kt_Akabee on Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 08:14 am:

MOM!!!! QUIT!!!! You don't need to put up with her anymore.... I know the $ will be tight but is it worth putting up with "HER" any longer?.... I can't wait to hear about all the complaints about the food when you do quit.....

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