Yesterday at my hair appointment, my hairdresser who I've been going to for about 5 years told me that her cancer came back. Two years ago she was diagnosed and treated with kemo, but now it's back. I guess her doctor had told her before that this form of cancer is very treatable.

Anyway, last night she confided in me about so much, like past loves and family issues. I feel like she is a friend even though she is 30 years older than me. Well, when I left I didn't give her a hug or anything. Now I feel like I should have. I told her how sorry I was and to take care of herself. I do see her every six to eight weeks though.

I guess my question is, what should I do? Send her a card? I told her I would call to see how things were going in a week or two. I swear, we could be related. We often laugh at our similarities and both being Aries. So, I was just wondering how much should I involve myself?

By Melana on Saturday, August 28, 2004 - 08:42 pm:

I'd say if you get along with her, and like the same things, be-friend her, it sounds like you already have anyway. If you have the time, call her in a few days and see if she has time to maybe go get some cofee or something and get to know her a little more. I know before I moved out here, one of My best friends was 81 and I was only 19!!!! I don't see a problem with being friends at all with your hair dresser, and who cares if she's 30 years older than you, it's how well you get along and that you share the same interests. JMHO though.

By Happynerdmom on Sunday, August 29, 2004 - 12:02 am:

I agree...especially since you said you would call her anyway. See if she wants to do lunch, or coffee or something. It sounds like there is still a lot of hope for her, but sometimes when someone is very sick, and knows they possibly will die, it is much easier to talk to someone that is not really close. Many times they can be more honest. A lot of times, close friends and family are not ready to "hear" what they have to say, not ready to accept that the end may be nearer than they hoped, or the patient doesn't want to frighten or burden their loved ones with their fears. Does that make sense? You can be a very valuable friend to her. Don't worry about saying the right things...just listen. (((hugs)))

By Amyj on Monday, August 30, 2004 - 10:25 am:

I agree with the others... I also think that sending a card with a note is always a nice way to tell someone how you feel. Ask her to join you for coffee or lunch. I believe that God puts people in our lives for a reason.

By Dana on Monday, August 30, 2004 - 11:16 am:

I agree with others. Sounds like she is in need of someone to talk to and you both have made a connection.