Gr! Ever get tired of hearing, "So when are you having your next child?" It's irksome - especially if you're trying and nothing's happening. Kind of a sore spot, really.

My mom, bless her heart, is pretty anxious for another grandchild. Thing is, she's always dropping little bombs like "I bought this little pink outfit but I guess it will go to (cousin of mine who is expecting a girl)," or, "I'm saving up some old clothes so Jack can play dress-up - or someone else can. How IS that someone else coming along?"

Anyway, I tried Ginny's Dear Abby/Miss Manner's statement, "Gee, Mom, I can't believe you would say something so insensitive." And then I cut the call short, saying, "Believe me, you'll be the first to know," because she wanted to get into a conversation about why it was bothering me. I dunno. I guess I just wish people would stop asking. Gr. Or am I just being oversensitive?? (sadly, I am also PMS-ing today).

By Dawnk777 on Saturday, August 14, 2004 - 02:26 pm:

I had the opposite problem from my mom. When I announced the second baby, she asked me if I was having a whole litter.

I wouldn't want to be nagged about having a baby either, though. I don't think you are being oversensitive.

By Laurazee on Saturday, August 14, 2004 - 02:34 pm:

Guess the part I'm wary of is getting advice from mom on how to best conceive. It will start out with all sorts of position questions. Then she'll start doing research on the internet. Then she'll start calling me every day and going, "So, did you guys do it last night?" or "I hear that boxer shorts help," or "You know, the best way to get a girl is to do it three days before ovulation," etc. etc. etc. I really don't want to go there! No! No! No!

By Sunny on Saturday, August 14, 2004 - 02:57 pm:

I don't think you're being oversensitive. I would tell her, though, that those comments are uncalled for and ask her stop. When it happens, it happens and she'll be the first to know. Until then, back-off (said in the nicest way, of course ).
I do think it's a little different when it's mom versus other family members or friends. I know I was close to my mom when she was alive and told her many things that only she was privy to. It was easy for me to tell other people to mind their own business, but I just couldn't do that with my mom. I was never pressured by her to have more kids, though, but I probably would have told her to back-off. If you do share with her about your difficulties getting pregnant again, she might understand better why it's a sensitive issue. If she doesn't and still pesters you, I'd might just tell her that the subject is closed unless I brought it up and then not talk about it. It might work.

By Eight_Kids on Saturday, August 14, 2004 - 03:10 pm:

i don't know what kind of relationship you have with your mother...I think I have a really good one with mine (even though my dad manages money really well and my mother is spoiled rotton....I have issues!!) but when she says stuff I think is uncalled for or I've heard enough of I usually have to tell her....a lot of times I'm snappy and mean about it....but she usually gets the point and it has never hurt our relationship. I don't think you're being oversensitive. It may be bothering you a little more than it would at some other time since you're PMSing maybe keep that in mind!!
((((hugs))))

By Bea on Saturday, August 14, 2004 - 03:36 pm:

My MIL kept bugging us about having HER GRANDDAUGHTER after our two sons. She had two other DILs, so I told her that this baby factory was closed, and she could go shopping elsewhere.

By Laurazee on Sunday, August 15, 2004 - 02:57 pm:

I think I'm a little oversensitive right now. Mom & I get along great, and she's the most devoted grandma. Sometimes there are times, I guess, that you don't want to be reminded of something that's bugging you. It's almost easier to take from people outside the family, because we expect our loved ones to know when something's a sensitive subject. They don't always know, though. Anyway, now she knows!