Here's the problem. My ds is in sort of a Pre-Preschool class, he is 3 yrs old. My dd is in preschool, she is 4 1/2 yrs old. They are both having their Mother's Day Party on the same day! His is at 10:30-11:15, her's is at 10:15-11:15. The buildings are right down the street from one another, about a 3 minute drive. I can't be in both places at once, but i want to be. I'm thinking i can go to one class for 1/2 hour and leave early to go to the other class. Or I can go to one for the whole time and ask my mom to go to the other party.

I'm sure some of you have been in this sort of situation before, any suggestions?

By Insaneusmcwife on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 03:12 pm:

I think either way would be fine...I would ask grandma, she would probably love to go. I know mine would.

By Texannie on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 03:18 pm:

Both sound like great options or you both switch off and go to both.

By Melanie on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 03:30 pm:

I think having Grandma go to one is a great idea. That way both kids have someone special there the whole time. I think that's a great solution.

By Amecmom on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 03:43 pm:

I've never been in that situation, but I think one of your children will end up feeling bad if you go to one party and not the other. Take your mom and go to both. Maybe you could go to the younger child's party first and then take your son with you to your daughter's party and then you can all leave together and go for a special lunch. Or, you can just go to one party and then the other with or without your mom and then pick up the kids as usual.
Even if they don't say it, one kid will feel less important to you if you go to one party and not the other.
Ame

By Marg on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 04:17 pm:

I agree with all, but Ame is the one I favor.

I would go to one party while grandma goes to the other for 1/2 hour each and then switch you go to the other while grandma goes to other, each child has someone with them almost all the time, all but 5 minutes drive time. Just explain the situation to both, the 3 yo might be difficult, I know I have a 3 yo and she thinks she's the center of my universe!

And the special lunch sounds good.

By Mommmie on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 04:57 pm:

I would skip the younger child's party and take him and go to the older child's party only.

By Mommyathome on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 04:57 pm:

Ditto Marg
Have grandma go to one, you to the other, and then switch. That way everyone gets to have mom at the mothers day party.

Maybe ask the teachers if there is a special time where the moms get introduced or get an award or gift. It might be at the beginning of one party and at the end of the other. If that is the case, you might be able to work it out so that you are at each one just at the right time.

We are in a small area (about 500 elementary students) and the preschools and dance/sports teams are really good about planning around each other. I guess we are lucky in that area.

By Ginny~moderator on Thursday, April 8, 2004 - 05:25 am:

I think Ame's idea is the best. One thing about kids - no matter how hard you try to treat them fairly and not favor one over the other, each of them is going to say "you love him/her better", "sh/e gets more (of whatever) than I do" - "It's not faaaaair!".

By Babysitbarb on Thursday, April 8, 2004 - 03:29 pm:

I agree about switching betwwen the two with Grandma also that way they both get mom and Grandma. Iv had this happen before for school parties and if my mom could come in she would and we would switch half way Or my DH also.

By Bea on Friday, April 9, 2004 - 12:07 am:

It's not Grandparents day being celebrated. Go to both parties. Spend half the time at each.

By Bobbie on Friday, April 9, 2004 - 10:20 pm:

Having twins... I always have to deal with this issue. I don't run myself ragged. I set up to go into class early with one girl and leave before the party and go to the other girls class. Or I usually ask someone to come sit in with one of them. And then the next party I switch which girl I am with. And to be honest it has never caused and issue. Many of the children that go to school with my girls have grandparents that attend instead of their parents (Need to be at work). So for the girls the idea that they have someone there makes it special because many parents do not attend at all. My major issue isn't the parties though. It is the open houses at the beginning of the year. They run all the same classes at the same time. Meaning the girls teachers are giving their welcome to my class speeches at the same time and I can't very well be in both classes at once. And that is surely a case where I need to be in both places at once.

I am sure whatever you decided to do would have worked out fine. Just hope you didn't run your self out getting it done...