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TWO years ago I fixed up my husbands friend with my one friend from high school. At first they got along great-they dated and had tons of fun and loved being with each other. But most of their dating was long distance so they decided to move in together at her apartment. THAT my friends is when it went alllllll down hill. They started fighting all the time and not getting along. SO the day happened when my friend snapped and told him to get out and not to be there when she got back-We moved him out in about 3hrs and now he is living in between our house and someone elses. We have his couch, tv, among other things stored in our basement till he finishes out his semester here then he is to move back to NY. I am just hoping this doesnt turn into a fixed thing. I am hoping by the end of June he will be outta here. Dont get me wrong I love him to death but we delt with my cousin living here for almost 6months last year and now this year we have another house guest. I have learned that I will never fix anyone else up again-I swear by it! Nothing but bad news on my end, this is the second fix up that went down hill. LOL OK I just had to vent a little bit! Thanks for listening.

By Dawnk777 on Saturday, March 27, 2004 - 11:38 pm:

I'm sorry it didn't work out. Bummer that you have another houseguest.

My DH and I were fixed up by mutual friends and are still married, though. It was 16 years this past October.

By Ginny~moderator on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 07:05 am:

Jessica, if you want him out by a certain deadline, be up front with him about it. Set a date and remind him on a monthly or weekly basis. If you and your dh are not up front with your house guest about expectations, you can't really blame him if he thinks the situation is open-ended.

I note your second post and apology for same. You are neither the first or last to have this happen, so don't worry about it.

By Dana on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 08:02 am:

First, it is not your fault these things happened with them. Everything after the first meeting was their own choice.

And yes, I feel you should be up front with a deadline on when your friend needs to find his own place.

By Bobbie on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 11:33 pm:

Agreed about the dead line. My brother in law thought our house was his flop house when ever he was on the outs with his wife back when she was just his girl friend. It got to where if she made him mad he would just pack up and move in with us. And they would make up and he would go back. One day I had enough. I knew he was sneeking off to see her and I was tired of him sleeping on my couch. I packed all his stuff. We met him at the front door. Took him into the kitchen and told him nicely to go home and not come back. He never did either. Told him something to the effect of we know you are seeing her again etc. But if we hadn't had set him straight he would probably still be doing it to this day... He had it to easy. And we made it that way for him..