OK I admit I am not a fan of my sister in law but her latest and greatest is so tacky I have to share it with you.
She is getting married---Again.
According to her since she had her marriage annuled it is as though she never had a first wedding so second wedding rules do not apply to her--fine. I don't think thats how it works but first wedding, second wedding this is still very poor etiquette!
She sent a wedding shower invitation written (by her) in childish writing and it says " You are invited to my mommy's wedding shower held by me (her 5 year old daughter).
It is so tacky! Family members are not supposed to hold showers and its obvious she is holding it for herself.
Why? I really do not know. She has a house full of stuff as does her fiance so they do not need to be "showered" with gifts.
She wrote on the bottom of the invitation where she is registered so it just looks like she wants gifts.
Don't you think this is tacky?

By Trina~moderator on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 02:41 pm:

YES!! Tacky!

By Mommmie on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 02:44 pm:

Oh my!

By Payday614 on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 02:50 pm:

Very!

By Karen~moderator on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 02:53 pm:

Not only tacky, but greedy and nervy as well!

By Yjja123 on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 02:58 pm:

Karen,
That is a great definition for her.
If you remember she is the same sister in law (from hell) who came to my house during the holidays uninvited--even after I explained it was not a good time. Nervy is almost an understatement.

By Vicki on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 03:02 pm:

Yikes, that did take some guts to do! Is the family planning on attending?

By Rwja on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 03:05 pm:

Very buggy/tacky..you poor thing.

By Yjja123 on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 03:14 pm:

My husband and I are NOT attending. It is a 4 hour drive and its bad enough we are going to the wedding. We are not looking forward to it.
I sent her a very polite regrets reply. Knowing her she will start calling and saying we are rude not to come.

By Colette on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 03:20 pm:

WOW! Very tacky! I wouldn't go to it or the wedding.

By Yjja123 on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 03:23 pm:

She just had an engagement party that was adults only. Keep in mind she lives 4 hours away and we do not have family local. She expected us to hire a babysitter leave our kids overnight and go to this party. To top it off her brother (my husband) works every Saturday--required. The party was on a Saturday and a 4 hour drive from us. We explained we couldn't come and she emailed over 20 emails, left countless messages on my husbands work voice mail demanding we show up. I finally sent her an email asking her if it was so important for us to be there than why didn't she include our children and schedule it on my husbands day off (He gets every Sunday off). I told her that harrassing us just made us defensive and since he couldn't get his schedule changed it was ridiculous to do so. Her response? "I am printing this email to reflect about what you have said". Needless to say she is still reflecting :o)
It is exhausting dealing with her. I will be very happy when this wedding is over!

By Mommyduncan on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 03:33 pm:

I think I would have a hard time even going to the wedding. That is very tacky and I can't believe anyone would even attend a shower like that.

By Mommyathome on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 04:11 pm:

Hmm, interesting. Tacky to say the least. She would get along well with my MIL.

Get this:
When me and DH got married, his family was in charge of the wedding lunch. (no rehearsal dinner, so this took the place of that). They had it scheduled about 2 hours before any of my family was able to make it, which was just rude...but now for the tacky part......my DH's mother called a bunch of people from church and asked them to donate casseroles and salads etc. My mom was humiliated. She was in tears. We all go to the same church so this was very embarrasing. I couldn't believe it when we showed up to the luncheon there were people from church getting out of the car with jello salads. I couldn't believe it. It still makes me mad when I think about it LOL.

So....when should we hook the two of them up? They would be great together

By Mommmie on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 04:26 pm:

Wow, and I always thought the sun was the center of the universe.

By Andi on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 04:34 pm:

I guess I can see why it's tacky but it really isnt harming anyone. Her daughter might really want to have a party for "Mommy" and sounds like that was a cute way to make the invitations. If anyone feels the same way you do I'm sure they won't attend but I guess I really don't see the harm in the whole thing.
This is JMO and I have not been in your situation and maybe I would see it different if I where. Good luck with the whole thing.

By Bea on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 05:09 pm:

All I can say is class shows, and obviously there isn't much class showing near this BROAD. She'll probably charge people to dance with the bride.

By Palmbchprincess on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 05:10 pm:

I am baffled. I mean come on, no one is saying we all have to be Miss Manners or anything, but some people make chimps look classy! I'd boycott the wedding!

By Yjja123 on Friday, March 19, 2004 - 05:13 pm:

The kicker is she presents herself as this refined woman of means. She makes fun of us as being low class since she is higher educated.
I agree it is not hurting anyone but it is of very poor taste and Emily Post would have a field day with her.

By Ginny~moderator on Saturday, March 20, 2004 - 04:29 am:

I agree, incredibly tacky - but then, this woman and her family (unfortunately, your dh's family too) are incredibly tacky. Just be glad it isn't genetic. Given her self-invitation a few months ago, this doesn't surprise me one bit.

I learned a long time ago, Yvonne, that education and intelligence are not the same thing. I spent several years supervising graduate student interns (me with my high school diploma) when I worked at a non-profit, and I can't tell you how many times they "just didn't get it".

By Babysitbarb on Saturday, March 20, 2004 - 12:16 pm:

My DH's cousin who is also my best friend is getting married 2 weeks from today.Im the Matron of Honor. Anyways, it's a second marriage for both. They are doing a lot of the traditional stuff for the wedding and reception because they both didn't have a wedding the first time.It's actually a private immmediated family wedding and then a large reception. My family and I hosted an engagement party last weekend in our home for family, friends and children. She has 4 children and he has none. We did it this way so people didn't feel obligated to bring a gift.(only two peole did). People keep asking her were she's registered and she's not. They both regret not putting on the invite omit gifts because they feel funny about people bringing gifts.I do think it's rude to have an party for yourself and lots of people asked why we included the kids with the engagement party and we told them because our children are going to be here and it's a family party. I know some people won't come if they have no where to leave their kids and think they can't bring them. One of my DH's cousins got married when our youngest DD was a baby and it said no children allowed. We didn't go, because we would have to stay in a hotel because it was a four hour drive and leave the kids behind and we don't do that.