Forgetful husband! ARGH!!!
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Forgetful husband! ARGH!!!
My husband would forget his own head if it wasn't attached. He's always been this way but I thought he might grow up a little bit and take more responsibility for things. Forget about renting a movie or checking things out from a library, he loses them altogether or misplaces them so long we pay whopper fees. He misplaces his wallet and or keys several times a week. Today he forgot to get our daughters bathing suit to her for swimming after school. (Dh works part time where she swims) He called to say he felt bad because she was mad at him, so had to go to a different activity she doesn't like. He got mad at me and said I was unsupportive when I told him he needs to get his act together. He is responsible in other regards, as far as keeping a job, parenting, etc. I am so aggravated by his constant misplacing important things, but I don't know what the reason would be behind this.
OOoooo, my DH is the same way sort of! We'll be driving to specific place to eat, and he'll drive right by it. Or, I'll need him to pick something up on his way home, I'll tell him right before he leaves work, and he'll forget to stop and get it. Sooooo annoying.
Does he have a special place to put these things? I have found with my dh, he stays MUCH better organized if I have a system for him. LOL We have a basket by the door that holds nothing but keys. When he comes in the door, he drops his keys in the basket. He also has his own "junk" drawer in the kitchen by the phone. That is where he puts things like his wallet, cell phone and other daily things he takes with him. The swimsuit.... well, he likely would have forgotten that too, so I would have probably put it in his car the night before. LOL I am BIG at getting everything ready the night before.
Well, in my marriage, it would be more likely my husband would say this about ME! I have to get things together the night before, or I WOULD forget my head, LOL! The other morning I even packed my lunch for work and proceeded to leave it on the counter. DH keeps everything right in his head, doesn't even write things down, and very rarely forgets anything. I don't know how he does it! I think some of us are just naturally scatterbrained. Of course, personally I think it's a sign of being an intelligent, warm, and all-around wonderful person.
Oh, and ditto Vicki on having a system and place for everything...that's how I appear to be a "normal" person!
I think men are not as good multi-taskers as women. My hubby is very forgetful. I realize this and know I must follow-up with things.
He has trouble remembering to pick something up after work. He has a very stressful job. I just know I need to remind him before he comes home.
Just as he deals with my quirks, I deal with his.
We do have a place for everything and he generally will put things away.
Like Vicki, if he needed to take something with him, I would put it in his truck.
If I had a dollar for every time DH has misplaced the checkbook, I would be rich! LOL! It's never lost out in public. It always ends up being in the house, or in the car, but somehow he can't find it for a while. It drive me crazy.
We do have a key-rack for keys, but it's kind of far from the door. We have found that the dog's crate is a good place to clip keys! LOL!
I've tried helping, but I can't always. Ugh! My dad was so anal, and I'm glad dh isn't like that, but a little would be ok,lol! It makes me feel better that it seems like more of a normal thing rather than a maturity issue. It has just been so much lately! I want to wring his neck! Lol!