Would this make you mad?
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Would this make you mad?
I know this may sound silly. I guess I am posting this just to vent a bit.
So, I am no longer babysitting. The little girl I was babysitting in the afternoons now goes to all day Kindergarten. I still have an arrangement with my friend(the mother of the girl )On Mondays I pick up the girls from school (My daughter, and my friends 2 daughters). I take them back to my house until 4pm, when she picks them up. My friend works late on Mondays. The rest of the days, my friend picks up the girls. It helps out a lot, expecially when Faith is napping. Sometimes my friend has to work late and will ask if I could pick them up. She always tells me the day before.
Ok.. why I am mad. Yesterday she drops my daughter off. I started chatting with my friend in the driveway. She said she "May" need me to pick up the girls tomorrow, as she "may" need to work late, but she would call me and let me know if this was the case. Ok fine..no problem. I dont hear from her all day, so I assume she is picking up the girls. Around 2:55 I call her. (School gets out at 2:30). Normally my daughter is brought home around 2:45,always a line of cars waiting to pick up kids). Now granted, I only live 9 houses away, so Iam close..So at 2:55 I call my friend and leave her a voicemail asking her what was going on, is she picking up or am I? Before she called me back, I was already putting Faiths shoes on to go up to the school. She said "Yes pick them up".. I told her calmly(Which is hard for me LOL)that she said she would call me if she was running late and needed me to pick them up. I said "You do remember telling me that dont you?" She said she did remember, NOW...and apoligized. So I hung up quickly and got the girls. In reality no big deal. I think what bothered me the most is that I am anal about certain things. WHen I was picking up my child alone last yr, or when I pick up all 3 girls. I am ALWAYS there 5 minutes ahead of time, just to be sure I am not late...I know, that is just me. I just hate being late for anything...
So by the time I got to the school, the girls were waiting for me in the school office. Normally pick up is in the school cafetaria.
My friends daughter sais to me "Why are you so late?"... So I say "Well your mom never told me I had to pick you up"...
No big deal really. All girls are here safe and sound, having a snack and watching tv.
Would this have made you mad?
Mad? No. Irritated? Sure. But it was a mistake. I'd let it go pretty quick.
It would REALLY irritate me. Things like that are so frustrating to deal with. Especially when you are the one that is left to bail everyone out of the situation.
YES-- because your kids were left for half an hour. Most schools document late pick-ups. It can be upsetting to the kids to not know why no one has picked them up.
Since this was just one incident I might let it go. But if it were to be a pattern of behavior, I would definitely have issues with it.
I wonder if something happened to them, who would really be mad???
I would be slightly annoyed, but quickly over it, because mistakes happen. I totally spaced one day. I usually leave work to pick the kids up from school, drop them at the sitter's and head back to work. This one day, I lost track of the time, and realized there was no one to pick them up when school got out in 2 minutes. (I work 20 minutes away) Thankfully, a friend was able to get them for me, but I felt just AWFUL!!! My point is she probably already feels bad enough for forgetting, try to remember we're all human.
I think it would have made me mad, because I would have spent the whole day wondering if I was supposed to pick them up or not. I think by 2pm or so, I would have been calling her, to see what the deal was, if she hadn't told me by then. My kids would have been upset that no one had picked them up, especially when they were little.
I would have been mad. But, since it was a one time thing, I wouldn't hold it against her. What I would do, is next time she says, "she may need you to pick them up", I would just offer to do it. Then, there won't be any issues.