A2 - how are you??
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A2 - how are you??
Annie, haven't seen an update from you in a while. How are you and the kids doing????
I've been thinking of you as well! Update please...
I think about you all the time. Hope all is going well!
Thanks for thinking of me...
Dh and his atty have not supplied my atty with his papers. So we have a contempt of court date scheduled for Oct. Yes, Oct. He told me his atty told him not to worry about it and that this would probably be going on for two years! He has denied my entire pettion but doesn't want to enter his papers, he's stalling. He doesn't want to counterclaim me but wants me to counterclaim my original petition. I told him it doesn't work that way.
He has seen the little kids three times since they got out of school in May. Yes, they did go back his way twice and met the "chickie". They told me she is ugly, skinny, no boobs, a brunette, doesn't talk and has an ugly Pinochio nose. They said her 8 year old dd was a pain but her 2 1/2 year old ds was cute.
He is giving me money but it's not much. I've had to borrow money from my sister to maintain. He did buy a new tv for our family room. The old one was broken, before he left, and the kids have been watching tv out in our sunroom. Unfortanately they have to run a separate ac unit and it was making my electric bill sky high. He also traded his new lawn mower and new weedwacker with our 6 year old ones. I insisted. I told him he left me with equipment he knew I had trouble starting and it wasn't right that he bought himself brand new things.
Kids are great. 16 year old dd has a parttime job, wants to buy a car and has been dating her boyfriend now for 6 months. 13 dd scored three levels above her grade level on the reading FCAT and two levels above in math. Our senator sent her a letter as well as our superintendent. She's been cheerleading all summer with her jr high team. 11 dd is busy swimming, playing with friends, etc. All three girls went to Chicago to visit my brother and his wife and LOVED the city.
10 ds is on his summer sleep schedule. Staying up way too late and sleepin was too late. He is playin with friends and playing his new PSP.
I'm playing tennis two or three times a week. I take a private lesson then play with a team which they asked me to join. We start team matches in August.
I have good days and bad days, still. I really want this all behind me but with dh stalling it will take longer than I anticipated.
Thanks for all of your support. I start a new thread every so often to update then start writing a huge novella.
Sorry on some words, my G seems to be sticking.
Annie, have you asked your lawyer if he can get the court to order temporary alimony and child support? Or go to welfare and apply for whatever you are eligible for - food stamps, energy assistance, etc. - and the welfare system will probably get on his back.
((Annie)) Please know that you and your kids are in my thoughts and prayers.
Yes, Ginny, I have talked to my atty about emergency alimony/support. He told me if I can hang on it would be better if we waited until he has viewed my dh's papers. He said he might low ball the figures then I would be stuck with lower payments until this is all over.
I haven't contacted any social services as of yet. However it is on my list to do as well as writing to my senator. I am having a bit of trouble doing too much besides maintaining the house, the yard and the kids' summer schedules right now as well as making time for me.
My sister is coming back in about ten days. She always helps me see the bright light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak.
Thanks.
I'm glad you are doing well, or should I say, as well as can be expected. It sounds like the kids are having a fun summer.
I hope you get things resolved quickly. It is too bad he is dragging things out.
Good to hear from you! I am glad your kids are stsying busy. That's better for them, I'm sure.
As for him stalling...something doesnt sound right?? Is that allowed? I don't think you can get away with that in my state- they atelast have to be paying the correct amt of support i thought??
I am just sick that he is stalling. ugh
Hang in there!!!
It's good to hear from you again! {{{HUGS}}}
Sounds like DH is holding true to being a huge JERK.. no suprise...
Glad the kids are staying busy, that you are finding me time...
It is sad, that he wanted to move on but that he is stalling things.. money, no doubt..
Dh sounds like he thinks he has a huge set of kahonies... Don't let him talk you into anything that isn't fair... He made his choice to play the game... Hopefully, he gets his just deserts...
Glad to hear you are hanging in. I am sorry the putz is still up to his tricks! I hope things get resolved soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Sorry you're having to deal with so much B S.....that's unfortunately the way so many separations go. :-( You are doing really well, though, you have a great attitude, your kids sound like they are making the adjustment as best as can be expected.
To repeat what Bobbie said above, don't let him talk you into anything that isn't fair! Stick to your guns, be firm, heck, be DEMANDING. That's what it will take. Don't back down. I ended up backing down on a lot of stuff simply because I just wanted all the B S to be over. Wrong move on my part. So when/if you ever need a little *push* for renewed strength, we are all here for you.
Hang in there!!!!
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