The sex challenge
Moms View Message Board: The Kitchen Table (Debating Board): The sex challenge
Anyone hear of this? Anyone try it? Any thoughts on it?
http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/living/2008/11/24/young.seven.days.sex.cnn
http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/life/religion/6109547.html
Celebrate marriage -- have more sex
Marriage is the only right place for sex, says Ed Young, senior pastor of
Fellowship Church. So he's encouraging married couples to celebrate by
having sex every day for a week starting Sunday.
"I think our culture, sadly, has taken sex out of context, and we want to
put it back in context," Young said.
Society encourages promiscuity, he said. So the church should preach the
message to enjoy sex as God intends: in a marriage between a man and a
woman.
"I think it's one of the greatest thing you can do for your kids because so
goes the marriage, so goes the family," said Young. His father, Dr. Ed
Young, is pastor of Houston's Second Baptist Church.
A professional family counselor thinks Young is doing a great service by
telling people what intentional efforts to increase intimacy in their
marriage can bring, according to Gary Kindley, executive director of
Counseling, Consulting and Inspiration Associates, a United Methodist
organization in Dallas that offers counseling to clergy and laity.
"Sexuality is related to spirituality, so I think it can be spiritual growth
as well, and we shouldn't be insecure about that," Kindley said.
"I think that historically, because of some of the writings of St.
Augustine, there have been taboos associated with what is really a good gift
of sexuality -- God's gift."
Young helped found the Fellowship Church in Grapevine 18 years ago, and it
now has campuses in Fort Worth, Dallas, Plano and Miami. Young's Sunday
sermon on seven days of sex will be posted on the church's Web site, he
said.
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I've heard of it a couple of times, one pastor challenged his congregation to have sex every night for a month, and I also heard about this particular challenge. I'm not married, or religious, so I'm out on this one, but I wanted to give it a bump, because I'm pretty sure it was discussed here not too long ago. I'm sure some of the moms here will have some opinions on this idea...
Actually, I guess I can chime in to part of it, just on the idea of sex every night for X days. I can't imagine doing it, whether during my marriage, or a serious relationship. I haven't had the energy for that since before I had the kids. Kudos to those of you who do, I'm jealous!!! Still, if you are forcing yourselves to have sex every night because of a challenge like this, is it quality? If you aren't really into it, does it help your relationship? Are you even supposed to (according to the challenge issued) if you really aren't in the mood, and will just be bored and tired during the act? IDK, it just seems pointless to me...
They were talking about this on "The View" yesterday. I "think" in theory it seems all fine and dandy. It "seems" the husbands probably like this idea more then the wives LOL...
I understand about sex and bonding people together in a marriage. BUT...now a days, it seems so many of us have so many things on our plate. I know talking to other friends, sex is not a high priority. Although, I hear it should be.
Now a days things are stressful, with lack of money, people losing their jobs. I can see where sex would not be a top priority.
I think sex is an important part of marriage, but I also think other things are just as important. To me just spending time together alone, means A LOT.. I think the Pastor should challenge the people to have a date night for 7 straight days, or for a couple to walk around the neighborhood alone holding hands every day for 7 nights. Sometimes I feel during those times, the strongest bonding occurs.
Ditto Jackie about spending quality time together for 7 days. If that means sex every day for some people, then fantastic. If not, then fantastic to that, too. I personally don't want to have to have sex for 7 days, and I'm one who loves sex! LOL I could most definitely be happy with 7 days in a row, but honestly I just don't want to feel like I have to. DH and I may have sex 5x in a weekend, and then nothing for 3 weeks. Or 3x a week and nothing on weekends. It's just random and it happens when we want it to.
I really don't think having sex daily is the only way to celebrate marriage. Making an effort to be more emotionally and physically intimate is a way, but not JUST physically. (And that's coming from someone whose primary love language is the physical stuff, LOL).
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