My oldest dd"s dh called her from his job and gave her some horrible news.Without any prior notice,they have sent a big portion of their work over sea's,and his department is being shut down!!He was given the "choice" of moving OUT OF STATE or loseing his job!!!!!This has turned their world,and mine,upside down!!!!My dd,and my other dd,and I have cried non-stop for days.This is the first day since I found out about it that I can even bear to allow myself to write the words down.I'm so sad and angry!!! I live just minutes from all 3 of my children and their families( I also gave a step-dd,and she only lives about 30/45 mins away).We see each other often.I'm just a phone call away if my grandkids need a ride home from school,etc,if something happens and dd or dsil is at work.We go shopping together.Now all of this is changing! I've never lived very far away from my children,except for a 2 yr time period (almost 15 yrs ago)when my ds and youngest dd wanted to" experience " life with their biological dad.Needless to day,they came back home and have never been back to his home.But I've only been seperated from this dd for only a few months at a time.I know this could be a whole lot worse.And I know that this is not at all comparable to those that have lost their children through death.And I also know that we can still stay very much in touch through emails,telephone,etc.But it still won't be the same This is going to change the whole course of our lives together.My dgk's,Jesse and Kaity,will eventually meet and marry someone and their lives will take root there.And I will be the "Nanny on the phone" to their children !(my dgk's all call me Nanny).I believe when a company or business takes our American jobs over seas ,and still get their money from America,I think they should have to give up their American citizenship !!If they want to go to a place where the pay scale is dirt cheap and they can make a huge profit,they should have to live there.I've heard of other people's lives being changed because of this,and now it has hit home!!Sorry this is so long,but I just had to vent.On a brighter note,is their anyone on here that lives in or close to Jacksonville Florida? This is where they are going,and I told my dd that I would ask for advice on which areas would be the safest,etc.Also,does anyone recommend a particular school? They are in the 7th and 11th grades.Thanks again for letting me vent!!!!

By Crystal915 on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 01:51 pm:

(((((HUGS)))))
I won't start on the outsourcing thing here, but you have my deepest sympathies for this crappy situation. I hope something works out for all of your family.

By Insaneusmcwife on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 01:57 pm:

{{{hugs}}} I have never been to Florida so I can not offer any advice there. But I have had my life turned upside down and inside out with frequent moves. It will be hard in the beginning. Do you have a web cam? do they? the web cam helps a lot.

By Mommyof5 on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 04:59 pm:

Wanda I am so sorry! I know exactly how you feel. My two sister, my parents and my grandparents and myself are all within an hour of each other. Dh's family is also the same.

{{{hugs}}}

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 05:27 pm:

I'm so sorry! I have never lived close to my parents, since I got my first post-college job. We used to live 4 hours from them, then 1 hour and 15 minutes, and now it's about 2-1/2 hours!

I'm much closer to my sisters and we like to do stuff now and then.

I guess I don't know what it would be like to have my mom close by, but I think if we lived closer together and then one of us had to move, it would be hard.

By Christylee on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 07:05 pm:

I totally smpathize with you and can't even begin to imagine how hard that is going to be. My whole family (immdeiate) is within 20 minutes from each other and just the thought of moving used to give me panic attacks when Chuck would talk of the subject. ugh....

I guess you can look at it now you have a cool place to visit.

Many hugs, how soon do they move?

By Amecmom on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 07:14 pm:

I am so sorry Wanda. Hugs and prayers for strength for you and a safe move for them.
Ame

By Groovepickle on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 08:42 pm:

I'm am also so sorry. That's really something that can tear a persons heart out. It's certainly no replacement but maybe it will make you feel better, if you think of a project you can do for your grandkids each month after they leave. I'm trying to think of something but all I can come up with is maybe work on a scrapbook page about yourself that you can send each month so the kids can stay close to you, or maybe make them special cards. I hope this helps. I wish there was something I could do for you.
Groove

By Amyl on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 09:04 pm:

I am so sorry to hear this!!! I have lived away from my mother many times due to the military and it is always difficult, but like you said, you can always call and email.

I have lived in Jacksonville before and we lived in Orange Park, it was a great place to live and it has EVERYTHING there!! We lived in a townhouse and the development was called Holly Cove off of Wells Road, and we had a good, good friend that lived in a house that they rented in Argyle Forrest, also in Orange park. My dd's were not old enough for school yet so I couldn't tell you about the schools, but I do know that whenever we would just drive around, I always longed to live in Argyle Forrest. Hope this helps some, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.

Hugs!!

By Cocoabutter on Sunday, February 5, 2006 - 10:22 pm:

I am sorry that this is happening. This is the main reason why I don't shop at Walmart.

Anyway, I hope that you will adjust. I know it will be hard. You have been very fortunate to have your dks and gdks close.

My grandma isn't as lucky. I remained close, but when my aunts started having kids (I was 14 when my aunts started having kids) they all moved away. We live in Michigan, and one aunt moved to Indiana, the other moved to Arizona, then to Indiana, and finally settled in West Virginia. My grandma has been the Nanna on the phone the entire time my other cousins have been growing up. She and my grandpa have taken frequent trips to visit my aunts in all the places they have lived, but now that they are in their 80's, they can't do that anymore. My aunt in WV feels the pull to come back to MI to aid my grandma in her last years.

We also live about an hour away from my parents and in laws. We tried to sell our house so that we could move with in 20 min of them, but it didn't work. They are getting older as well, and I would like for ds to have a strong bond with them. It isn't easy living far away, even just an hour away. I would give anything to be able to live within minutes of my family as you are.

But we survive. We grow. And we adjust.

I pray that you and your dd and her family will, too.

By Beth on Monday, February 6, 2006 - 07:48 am:

I am sorry this is happening to you. If this is all you have ever known it would be hard. I live three hours from my family. Dh except for his mom, who lives with us. Lives 10 hours from his family. His mom is moving back this summer so we will be on our own again. Is there a chance he can find a new job? I will pray that whatever the outcome it is for the best. Good luck.((hugs))

By Kernkate on Monday, February 6, 2006 - 09:12 am:

{{{Wanda}}} So sorry to hear this

By Hlgmom on Monday, February 6, 2006 - 12:18 pm:

I am sorry for your situation! I live in Jacksonville and LOVE it here! You or your dd can email me and I will help in any way possible! hlg mom @ hotmail.com (no spaces!)

Good luck!
-Heather

By Kym on Monday, February 6, 2006 - 08:14 pm:

YOur post has me crying. As a motherless daughter and a wife whose inlaws live 3,000 miles away and don't care to be your type of grandparents when they are around, my heart just aches for your loss. And the loss for you dgk's

You can rest easy that you have raised a dd full of love and with a great support system.
Is there a way you can live part of the year in Jacsonville, now or when you are retired?

By Kym on Monday, February 6, 2006 - 08:17 pm:

YOur post has me crying. As a motherless daughter and a wife whose inlaws live 3,000 miles away and don't care to be your type of grandparents when they are around, my heart just aches for your loss. And the loss for you dgk's

You can rest easy that you have raised a dd full of love and with a great support system.
Is there a way you can live part of the year in Jacsonville, now or when you are retired?

By Wandilu on Saturday, February 11, 2006 - 12:53 pm:

Ladies,thank you all for your words of encouragment.I'm sorry I haven't been back on here in a few days.Dh and I took a quick,imprompto,trip to the Smokie Mountains to get away for a couple of days.About 3 weeks prior to this shocking news from our dd,my dh's dad passed away.So we just needed to get away.We stayed 2 days and nights,but it started to snow so we came back home,only because we didn't have enough money to get snowed in.That would have been fun!!Anyway,I'm not crying as much now .We all are just pretty much numb.But,dh and I are planning on getting a camper for our visits.