I HATE my husband's new job! He is still in school, and has been working in his dad's restaurant. He hated it for so many reasons, and I didn't want him to be miserable, so we agreed that a new job would be best. He started waiting tables again, at Bonefish which just opened up in our town. The money is great, more than he made before. But he only works at night, and I work during the day. So far, in the 2 weeks it has be open, he has been off for 2 days. He doesn't get home until 11:30 at the earliest. We haven't had dinner as a family in so long!!!
He loves it and the money is VERY helpful. But I miss him! Christopher still gets to see him a lot (in the mornings, when I am at work) but I don't!!!!He is supposed to only be working 4 nights a week, but since the store is just opening, they need him more. I think if he only worked 4 nights a week it wouldn't be so bad, but the restaurant business isn't dependable like that. If they have anyone quit or call in (which happens SO often) he works more.
I'm glad that he is happy, and I try not to complain to him too much, but I hate it so much! Thanks for letting me vent, as always!

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 10:17 pm:

I hate it when Gary and I are like ships passing in the night! It must be hard.

By Cocoabutter on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 11:15 pm:

For two years dh and I worked opposite shifts. He worked during the week at night, and I worked weekends in the day.

It was hell. NO family time, NO weekends or evenings together, No sex, NO free time together, it totally sucked!

So I quit my job!

By Karen~moderator on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 11:33 am:

Keep telling yourself *it's only temporary!* I know it's hard, but it won't be forever. Until recently, my DH had to work 2 nights a week and only had every 3rd weekend off. It's frustrating and upsetting when you have no family time, or alone time with your spouse. And with young kids, you start feeling like a single parent. But it will pass! How long until he finishes school? {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

By Heaventree on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 11:44 am:

I know it's hard, but it's not forever. Hang in there. The good thing is he is happy and the money is good. You gotta make hay when the sun is shining, come January he might not be so busy.

By Jelygu on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 05:36 pm:

He still has a good two years left, which seems like an eternity! I am TRYING to look one the bright side, but its hard sometimes!

By My3cuties on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 06:59 pm:

Here is a bright side: At least you get to sleep with him at night. My DH is gone for 2 (sometimes 3 or 4) days at a time then in for a couple hours or maybe a night then back out and gone. I get weekends with him and I love it. But I know we couldn't have our van and get a house (eventually) and provide for the girls like we want to (all things necessary) without him being gone like this. I know it won't be forever, but then I know it won't end any time soon. I miss him so much all the time and he calls every 2-3 hours except when he is sleeping. Thank God for cell phones and free mobile to mobile...cause we sure use it. I don't mean to make it sound like you have it made or anything, just letting you know it could be worse. And I eventually got used to him being gone...which means it is not AS hard, I still shed a tear when he is pulling out of the drive-way, but I can cope for my girls sake. ((((((hugs))))) I know it is hard, try to be as supportive as you can be, I am sure he misses you too. For hours when DH gets home we just sit and love on each other.. all 5 of us, that time is priceless.

And then again I don't have it as bad a some wives either (ie ~ military wives, etc)