When is it considered okay to wear all black to a wedding?
My nephew got married yesterday and I was surprised to see a few women wearing all black. I thought that was reserved for funerals? Anyway, either the rules have changed or their attire was inappropiate. I guess because it was an afternoon Spring wedding it has me puzzled. It doesn't matter, really, but I am curious.

By Karen~moderator on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 12:20 pm:

I always see people dressed in black for weddings.

By Ginny~moderator on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 02:18 pm:

I see it so I suppose it is acceptable. Personally, I don't like it.

By Pamt on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 03:42 pm:

It is acceptable now. I generally don't wear black except at my brother's first wedding his wife wanted us to wear black so I did. That marriage didn't last a year--LOL.

By Mrsheidi on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 04:28 pm:

I think it's appropriate for night weddings, but not day. But, I can assume that they thought black was slimming?

By Reds9298 on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 05:48 pm:

I see it all the time and I really don't like it! Black is for funerals or a night on the town (I'm old-fashioned I guess!) I guess it's acceptable though.

By Amecmom on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 07:16 pm:

A few years ago, I was looking for an evening dress and all I could find was black. I really has to search hard to find something else.
Black has become acceptable.
Ame

By Marcia on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 07:26 pm:

Yes, I've seen black at weddings. I've seen wedding parties wear it even.
I don't think that black is always worn at funerals anymore, because they can be a celebration of life.

By Kay on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 08:15 pm:

At the last wedding I attended (last weekend), the bridesmaids wore black, and it was stunning. I no more pay attention to what people used to wear to weddings, than the rule about black at funerals. I have known folks who, prior to their death, asked specifically that people NOT wear black to their funerals. At one funeral I attended recently, the deceased woman's daughter got up to do a eulogy, dressed in a red suit. This was at the request of her mother, who believed that death is just a part of the life process, and should be celebrated as such.

I think the only thing I would not do is to wear all white while attending a wedding - I feel that the bride should stand out on this day.

By Brandy on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 10:29 pm:

my brother and sister in laws wedding had a black and cream theme so there were a few wearing black that's one of her favorite colors i guess? = )

By Karen~moderator on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 08:39 am:

When my sister was married she had a *black and white* wedding. It was actually very attractive and formal.

Jen was in a wedding last year where the bridesmaids wore black - it was beautiful.

I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and many guests wore black.

Personally, I think there is nothing sharper than basic black.

By Imamommyx4 on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 07:02 pm:

I think black is classy and almost always acceptable. But frankly I'm not a fashion queen. I like what I like and wear it.

And I'm with Kay. The only thing not appropriate at a wedding would be white if you're not the bride.

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, June 1, 2005 - 07:01 am:

Just curious... Am I the only one who does not wear black?? I don't have one single item of black clothing because I dislike it. Makes me look pale and washed out.

By Karen~moderator on Wednesday, June 1, 2005 - 07:15 am:

I LOVE black.....

By Vicki on Wednesday, June 1, 2005 - 07:24 am:

As a general rule I don't wear black on a regular basis either. But, I do like a nice black dress! Very classy looking IMO.

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, June 1, 2005 - 09:27 am:

Yes, black can be classy looking but (I think) only on people who have the right coloring for it. Eve looks great in black and so does my DH but it makes me look AWFUL.

By Frasersmama on Wednesday, June 1, 2005 - 04:56 pm:

I have worn black to a wedding. It was an afternoon outdoor summer wedding and I wore a black strapless dress, pretty casual, just a cotton one from the Gap. Honestly, I didn't give it a thought, but I wear a TON of black.

By Bea on Thursday, June 2, 2005 - 12:08 am:

I've gone to several black and white weddings recently. Although it wouldn't be my choice for colors, it seems to be popular, so I now wear black to weddings also. Most of my very dressy things are black, so it makes things easier for me.

By Tink on Thursday, June 2, 2005 - 01:38 am:

I'm not a fan of black either, Trina. I like it on many people, my dh, for example. But I also look washed out and is not the slightest bit flattering. I do own a few pieces but I prefer a medium grey or dark blue, if I need a dark neutral piece.

I'm finding black at weddings a lot more and think it is appropriate now.