My brother in law's grandmother died. To whom do I address the card to? JUST my brother in law? Or him AND my sister? My SISTER'S grandmother didn't die....what exactly is proper in these cases? This same brother in law's father died recently, too, and in that case I addressed it to both my sister and brother in law because the father lived with them for about 15 years so I felt they both had a true relationship with him. Yet...he WASN'T my sister's father. I'm just really confused. It may seem like a no brainer to some people, but I guess I find it a gray area.

By Amecmom on Wednesday, January 19, 2005 - 12:54 pm:

Address it to both of them. She's her Grandmother by marriage. When they married, his family became her's and vice versa. You can't go wrong having more names than necessary. You run into trouble when you leave someone out.
Ame

By Rayanne on Wednesday, January 19, 2005 - 12:59 pm:

I agree with Ame. Address it to both.

By Missmudd on Wednesday, January 19, 2005 - 01:38 pm:

If you feel uncomfortable addressing to your sister than address it to bil and family, that way they can decide who they would like it to mean. I would personally go ahead and address it to them both.