Well Faith still hasnt been sleeping through the night. She will be 10 months next week. Id say we have had 2 full nights of her sleeping all night in her crib since I last posted. She always starts off in her crib. Usually with the 2nd wakeup I put her in bed with us. I know most of you are against that.. but it works well for us now. When we put her with us, she will sleep from 10-5ish or 6ish...This is a great improvement then waking up 3-5 times a night. Me and my husband has slept much better and so has Faith. Ive never had this problem with the other 2 kids. Crying it out is just not worth it for her or for us. Its nice to get some solid sleep and not feel like walking zombie in a sleep deprieved haze all day long every day...For now this is working for us.

By Tonya on Tuesday, June 7, 2005 - 04:14 pm:

If it works do it. You have to do what is best for you and if htis is how you get a full night then I say go for it and enjoy. Jade was 12 months before she started really sleeping through the night all night. Before that is was 2-3 ups a night. Good luck this to shall pass.

By Reds9298 on Tuesday, June 7, 2005 - 05:24 pm:

Ditto Tonya on doing what works for you.
Before you know it this phase will be over and you'll be on to something else...and everyone will be sleeping great.
Good luck

By Sunny on Tuesday, June 7, 2005 - 05:26 pm:

I don't think there is anything wrong with sleeping together.

By Tink on Tuesday, June 7, 2005 - 05:39 pm:

I slept with all of my kids in bed with us for several months. My youngest slept with us from birth until she was 14 months old. Just do what makes you and your family happy. Obviously she needs you during the night and there is nothing wrong with that. May you have many more nights of decent sleep!

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, June 7, 2005 - 10:14 pm:

I would be the last one to say anything. Kids were in our bed on occasion, too! I'd say whatever works, go for it!

I had one summer that we had a 4yo in our room every night! She was freaked out by thunderstorms and even being in the room, just across the hall, was too far away. Since we didn't have air conditioning at that house, we didn't want her in bed with us, so she slept on a sleeping bag on the floor. If there was a storm, then she could come in bed with us. It got us through that summer, anyway!

By Missmudd on Wednesday, June 8, 2005 - 12:03 am:

Like everyone else has said, if no one minds and the bed is big enough, I think it is just fine. I had 2 that absolutely would not sleep in our bed for anything, 1 that slept in our bed til he was almost 3 and 1 that had to sleep on a mat by our bed until he was almost 5.

By Debbie on Wednesday, June 8, 2005 - 08:54 am:

Jackie, I say whatever works for you and your family. Who cares what everone else says, they are not the ones sleep deprived. My youngest didn't sleep through the night until he was 13 months old, so I can relate. As long as everyone is okay with it, go for it!

By Rayanne on Wednesday, June 8, 2005 - 10:08 am:

I ditto everyone else, if this works for you and your family, then do it. I am glad that you are finally getting some well needed sleep.

By Frasersmama on Wednesday, June 8, 2005 - 01:02 pm:

Again, ditto everyone else. Even if everyone were against it, who the heck cares! Are you and your family safe and happy? That is what is important. Way to go Mom for finding a workable solution to an INCREDIBLY stressful situation.

By Imamommyx4 on Wednesday, June 8, 2005 - 05:50 pm:

Dd started wanting to sleep with us. It was okay, but I couldn't sleep soundly with her in the bed plus she flopped her body across mine and I was afraid to move. And of course that leaves no alone time for dh. So I bought her a full sized bed that I can lay down comfortably with her. I lay down with her every night, read a book, then turn out the light and talk for a few minutes. Within 10 or 15 minutes she is usually asleep and I get up and go get into my bed with dh. It took until she was about 26 months for her to sleep pretty much all night in her own bed.
I think it's good to get others perspective on what worked for them bc it might give you ideas. But the bottomline is--you gotta do what works for you and your family.

By Amecmom on Wednesday, June 8, 2005 - 10:00 pm:

I'm sure this has been recommended before, but, "The Baby Whisperer" books are excellent. I just finished the latest one and it was very helpful - even for Helen who is an excellent sleeper, but was waking a few times each night until the book helped me figure out what was going on.
One point the author makes is that you have to begin as you mean to go on. Don't start something which is convenient in the short term that in the long term will be a huge problem. She calls this, "accidental parenting".
If you intend for her to keep sleeping in your bed, then, whatever works for you. But, this book had some great suggestions for solving sleep issues.
And of course, never base your choices and decisions on the opinions of other people. They are not getting up in the middle of the night with Faith.
Good luck.
Ame

By Children03 on Thursday, June 9, 2005 - 06:21 am:

Faith, I don't really agree about putting your child in the bed with you like that. The only reason I say that is because once you have done it a few times, then your child will automatically become accustom to only falling asleep in your bed with you or accustom to waking up in her own bed and wanting to come in your bed. I think this is a very hard habit to break as they get older. I know you are sleep deprived and it's hard, because believe me, I've been there, but I think you are setting yourself up for more restless nights the older Faith gets because it might keep you and your husband awake in your own bed. The child will probably start to have a hard time falling asleep in the bed next to you and will toss and turn a lot keeping you awake. I guess I just look into the situation you might have in the next few months or year from now. You're not a bad parent if you let your child lay with you and you're not a bad parent if you don't, but just remember that habits are just hard to change around.