I hate that word, I *really* do! DH gets on my nerves because everytime DD does something a 19 month old would do, it's considered "Bad". I try to explain to him the difference of bad and a toddler but its not getting through. I try to tell him that all she is doing is trying to test her limits and she will stop once she sees that shes not getting very far. I keep telling him that her tantrums are her way of expressing her feelings and because that is all she knows how to do, we need to show her the right way to express it when shes mad. But I hate the word "bad". Its also backfired on me because when DD would tease the cats and they would scratch her I would reprimand her but also say "bad kitty" so now everytime someone does something she doesnt like, they are "bad". "Bad Daddy" "Bad Doggy" "Bad Kitty" "Bad Toy"... everything. So now I have to work on getting that word out of her everyday vocabulary.

Do you have any words that just drive you up the wall? I remember growing up my Mom hated the word "Stupid" more than anything.

By Tink on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 12:52 pm:

Shut Up! I hate that phrase. We don't allow anyone in our house to use it, even jokingly. I just feel like it is so disrespectful and basically says that whatever you are trying to say isn't worth listening to. I really hate "bad" too. We don't use it with the kids but I do tell the cats that they are bad.

By Trisa on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 02:01 pm:

OK maybe some will think im stupid
but I hate it when DD is being not so good
and hubby tells her a million times
that Santa is watching! First of all it NEVER works! And I want her to be well behaved because
I said so and because its right. Not because Santa
is watching! I also hate the word hate! lol
Using it like this is ok but I don't like it when
my kids say I hate this and I hate that.

By Jewlz on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 02:01 pm:

stupid ,retarded, bad ,hate, or anything ethnical or racial, these words are not tolerated in my home at all. as soon as some one says them i politely tell them please find another word and offer a suggestion. in fact my daughter started hanging with a group of friends and they knew i didnt like the word and after two weeks of asking htem to find another word i told them for everytime they say those words that they have to do chores around the house. after about a week of this they were finding other words to say and i had a few chores done i didnt want to do ...lol

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 02:25 pm:

I don't like "dumbhead" and the only time kids were allowed to say it, was when they were playacting and the character in their scenario who said it, always got into trouble.

"Shut up" is right up there, too!

By Kaye on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 02:25 pm:

I hate the phrase I'm bored. Geesh we have so much stuff to do, I have so much work. So when I hear it I say great, this is my list lets get to working on it. Usually that sends them back to their stuff, sometimes I get help. I tell them that I just don't like the phrase, come up with something contructive, like I want to do something crafty, can you help mom, I want to be with you mom, what can we do. I am tired of just playing with toys, do you have any ideas all work for me

By My2cuties on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 02:42 pm:

I cannot stand the words Shut up, or stupid. Those are not tolerated in our home at all.

By Trisa on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 02:44 pm:

Yes Im bored that is a good one!
Get so sick of hearing it!
When I was a kid and we said that my mom
would always say what do you want me to do
hire a three ring circus?

By Bellajoe on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 03:09 pm:

When i told my mom i was bored, she would find something for me to do...clean my room, fold the laundry, put out the garbage, pick up the dog poop, cut the grass, ...i quickly learned NOT to tell mom i was bored anymore!

My kids are not allowed to say anything or anyone is stupid. And they are not allowed to say "shut up" either. I just don't want those words to be in their vocabulary. Of course i know they will eventually be in their vocab. but not in my home.

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 04:31 pm:

LOL! Whenever I used to tell my dad "I'M BORED!" he used to say "That's a selfish thing to say"...because it was like I'm telling him "entertain me"... he knew I could come up with something to do on my own and I eventually did. It developed my creativity for sure!

OR...if I said "I'm bored" he would say "Nice to meet you 'bored', I'm Paul!"
LOL!

By Imamommyx4 on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 06:24 pm:

Building on the bad thing, I dont' like, "Sorry, my bad." Whatever happened to "I'm sorry. I made a mistake."?

By Breann on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 06:31 pm:

I DO NOT like the word "hate". I was never allowed to say it growing up. It is just so harsh and so final.

My kids always say "I don't like that very much". Or, "I dislike Susie". Never "hate".

"Shut up" is another one that I don't like. My son picked it up from somewhere and he is still learning that he shouldn't tell his sister to shut up!

By Breann on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 06:34 pm:

I thought of another thing!

It really bugs me when my husband says "if you don't stop that I'm going to take all your toys away" or "you aren't going to go to the store with us unless you do such and such". Those punishments aren't realistic. They are just threats. I really try to encourage him to discipline with something that he will follow through with. Such as "if you don't stop that I am going to take away your box of lego's for the whole week" or "you are going to have to ride in the cart at the store if you don't do such and such". That way they will learn that the words we are throwing around really mean something. They know that we won't take away all their toys. And they know that we won't leave them home while we go to the store.

By Pamt on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 07:49 pm:

"Shut up" and "retarded" (as in "quit acting so retarded") are two that top my list and aren't allowed in my home. I also detest the word "sucks" as in "that movie sucks" and don't tolerate that either.

By Palmbchprincess on Wednesday, December 22, 2004 - 12:40 pm:

"Why?" is the new question of choice from DS. It's driving Nate nuts, because Shane asks "Why?" when we ask him to do ANYTHING! I know it'll pass... but I've said "Because I said so" a lot in the past week! A cute phrase (at least to me) is when Shane laughs and says "You're not nice, Daddy!" if he's being tickled or they are roughhousing.

By Kaleighsmommy on Thursday, December 30, 2004 - 06:25 pm:

I also do not like shut up or stupid...but what really gets on my nerves is just plain whining. My 2-year-old will just keep whining and whining and whining and...well you get the point. Or, she'll ask for something--like candy--and I'll say "no" and she'll just ask me over and over. She's like the energizer bunny or something. It drives my plain crazy!!! It also doesn't help that my in-laws spoil her like crazy and give her anything she wants. She's the first grandchild on their side.