I have two 2yo's that I care for. *N* and *S*. *N* was 2 in June and *S* was 2 in January. *N* isn't really an issue right now, because his parents haven't offically started training him. He sometimes goes if you put him in there or if he sees someone else go he may want to. *S*'s parents have put her in training pants this week. Her mom said she thinks *S* is too dependant on diapers and needs to feel wet. THANKFULLY these training pants have rubber outsides. The problem is *S* will NOT tell me if she has to go. If I put her on the toilet or tell her to go she might. Sometimes she sits there for 2 seconds and then says "I can't." Her mom says she does well at home, but she has to tell her every 45-60 minutes. Well, if we're doing all the initiating, WHO'S really trained??? It's been almost a week and she's STILL not telling me when she needs to go. She'll just wait until I tell her it's time and then she'll say "I'm wet" and usually laugh! ARGH!!! I hate potty training! She's a sweet little girl, but she gets frustrated with "having" to use the potty. She doesn't want to! I'm going to talk to mom tonight and tell her that *S* isn't initiating anything yet and see what she says. Maybe this weekend with them having her ALL day for 2 days in a row they'll get the picture. Any suggestions or btdt's with this method of training? Even Robin, who was AWFUL to train would at least tell me if he had to go. Randy was the world's easiest child to train (really!). Why can't all kids be like that??? Okay, thanx for listening and any advise would be great. Since this isn't my kid I kind of have to go with what the parents want. I do have in my contract things I WON'T do for potty training, and their not wanting me to do anything against those, but this is just so frustrating. I honestly don't think she's ready. I do give them a 'reward' when they go. They get one m-n-m for going, and a sticker on their daily report sheet for trying. So there is a little incentive (which is usually *N*'s motive! lol) What else can I do??? *sigh* Again, oh the joys...

By Tink on Thursday, October 28, 2004 - 07:35 pm:

I really don't have any advice since you aren't doing the potty training. Hopefully, the parents will understand after this weekend. Can you request that she use pull-ups at your house? As a parent, I hated them but I wouldn't blame anyone else if they preferred those when they were watching her. Lots of luck and not much else, sorry!

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, October 28, 2004 - 08:10 pm:

How frustrating. I didn't push it when mine were two! They were more ready for it at three. So, I guess I'm not a good one to be giving out advice. When Emily was ready, she was ready and it was a done deal in a matter of weeks.

By Cat on Thursday, October 28, 2004 - 11:16 pm:

I told mom tonight that *S* wasn't telling me when she needed to go, but would sometimes go if I put her in there. Mom said, "Yeah, she's not real consistant yet." Argh. She's picking her kids up early tomorrow for a Halloween party at her office. Wonder if she'll put her in a diaper for that??? At least I'll only have her for 1/2 a day tomorrow. We'll see how things are Monday.

Dawn, Emily sounds a lot like Randy in training. I didn't push him at ALL and two weeks before he turned three he said, "I want to wear underware." He was day and night trained in two days, one accident, no kidding. It was the best. Like I said, too bad all kids can't be that way.

Thanx for the thoughts, Cori and Dawn.

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, October 28, 2004 - 11:22 pm:

Her crowning moment was when she realized she had pooped in the pink Pocahontas panties! She was horrified and I don't think she ever had another accident. (okay, a few times she went to the potty, pulled down her pants and forgot to pull down her underwear, but since she was in the right place at the right time, those almost don't count!)

By Babysitbarb on Wednesday, November 3, 2004 - 01:49 pm:

Well Cat, Im going through about the same thing right now with a set of 3 year old twins. The Dad is working with them and Mom really isn't much. She also is due to have another baby in february. They haven't asked me to work on them here yet and I don't plan to do it on my own if they aren't doing very good at home. They only come 2 days a week and that's not enough for me to push it.I hate potty training also and especially when the kid has no desire and doesn't care if they are wet or not. The Dad says it's a real big fight at home so I would say they should wait a little longer.

By Cat on Wednesday, November 3, 2004 - 02:42 pm:

Good luck with those twins. Sounds like it's going to be a battle, especially if they're not interested and mom's having another baby. That usually causes setbacks.

On a positive note, *S* is doing very well this week. She is finally telling me when she has to go and hasn't had any accidents for me yet this week (her mom said she had one on Monday). She's still in training pants with rubber outsides, and they do get a little damp, but just a couple drops here and there. Wonder when mom's going to buy her panties...