My dd is 9 and here she is in intermediate already so she gets to be with the older kids which i dont care for cause its bringing home issues i think she shouldnt be dealing with...The main one being bullying. So far she hasnt had it that terrible..but there has been s afew little things here and there...name calling and such. She comes home those days very mad..not upset or scared but mad. She says she doesnt want to stand up for herself cuz they are so much bigger but she doesnt want to tattle either cuz that will make it worse...I listen to her and tell her to just walk away...they will get bored. I want to call the school but i also want to let her handle it on her own..This is NOT serious bullying right now just typical kid stuff so far. She said he said stuff or your clothes are stupid...not hitting or pushing or in her face or aything. Shoudl i just listen to her vent and let her be like she wants or should i do something? I am proud that at 9 she doesnt let it hurt her feelings so much and hit her self esteem...she knows they are just meanies and picking cuz she is small.. she knows she is beautiful and doesnt care what they think..just makes her angry that they are so stupid is what she tells me...lol

By Vicki on Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 09:17 am:

This is one of those things that I think you need to follow your gut on. I completely agree with the way that you are handling it. I think that at this point, if you run to the school, it could hurt her even more in the long run. She isn't in physical danger and like you said "right now just typical kid stuff so far". You are teaching her to take the upper hand and not let it bother her and I think your right that they will get bored picking on her and move on to someone else. While I don't think this behavior should go on, we must be realistic and see that it does go on and as parents, we can't stop every little thing that is said to our kids. Even though we would love to go have a good talking to to the kids that say the mean things, we can't. I think your doing just the right thing. Now of course, if it continues to get worse, effects her school work or becomes physical, that is a whole different ball game!