Ridiculous!

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You guys, I am at my wits end with ds. He is 9months and as posted before everytime I enter the room he starts crying/screaming! It's getting worse. When I go to feed him he flings his arms up and down making it very difficult to feed. When older ds is with him he is fine, he plays and I usually don't hear any crying. I've tried to find info on the web. but nothing related to when "mom walks into the room" babies usually get upset when mom LEAVES the room. Oh any suggestions would help. I'm so stressed right now it's not even funny!

By Momaroze on Wednesday, August 18, 2004 - 06:41 pm:

I am going to talk to the health nurse or the doctor. I honestly thought this would end soon. Thanks for listening, I really just needed to vent, sometimes things get a little crazy around here. I guess doing renovations doesn't help either.

BTW, I guess I'm feeling a little guilty right about now, complaining when so many other women are having a tough time conceiving. I know I am fortunate to have 3kds and should not complain!

I'm feeling less stressed now.

By Trina~moderator on Wednesday, August 18, 2004 - 08:44 pm:

He cries when you enter the room? Hmmm... Don't know what to suggest. Perhaps it scares him because he didn't realize you were missing. ?? As far as feeding, have you introduced any finger foods yet? Perhaps he doesn't want to be spoon fed any longer. Good luck and let us know how things go!

By Eve on Wednesday, August 18, 2004 - 08:54 pm:

Wow, now this really stumps me! Did you change your hair or anything? Is he crying because he wants to be picked up? Gosh, sorry, I can't think of anything to help! I hope you find some answers from the Dr.!

By Ginny~moderator on Wednesday, August 18, 2004 - 08:57 pm:

Please don't feel guilty about "complaining". I'd be pretty upset if my baby cried whenever I came into the room. I do think it is worth talking to the doctor about. Does he stop when you pick him up? Is it an "I see mommy and I want her" crying?

By Colette on Wednesday, August 18, 2004 - 10:16 pm:

Definately talk to your dr. I remember reading that this happens as more of a relief type cry - like what Ginny said, a "yay, mom's here I can let everyone know I was upset she went away" cry. Good luck.

By Coopaveryben on Wednesday, August 18, 2004 - 11:01 pm:

Make certain when you are leaving the room you always tell him you are leaving and you will be back, Don't sneak out on him or just up and leave the room without telling him.

I had one who made it very hard to feed because he would do this. Try rocking him while you feed him and singing to him and maybe this will calm him down and put his focus on you, if you don't like to sing talk to him about anything in the "mommy soothing baby voice".

I don't know if any of this will help but good luck. I can completely understand, with my middle I felt like he hated me and we had a hard time bonding, I felt guilty, sad and like a failure as a mother. My DS is turning 3 saturday and he is now the most loving of all my boys, we are very close. So this too shall pass.....

By My2cuties on Thursday, August 19, 2004 - 10:21 am:

Well, I really don't have any advice, but to tell you not to feel bad because I have seen this before. Most likely he wants you to pick him up when you walk in the room, so he is not afraid of you. My cousin's baby did this to her also until she was 1. She would play in her room with her toys or with my little girl and we would peak in on them and they would be great, but if she seen her mommie, it was all over. She would cry until she came and got her. It is nothing personal, but he will grow out of it. Good Luck.

By Momaroze on Friday, August 20, 2004 - 12:16 am:

Yes! Candice that is exactly how ds is!

I got a good nights sleep last night so I see things clearly today. Ds had a fever and then hives for 4 days on top of renovations and two older ds's fighting it's been quite a week!

It was really one of those crazy days! I felt like I was in a haze (ever experienced that?) everything that could go wrong seemingly did.

He does want me to pick him up and play. I'm sure because he wasn't well his behavior should have spoke volumes to me. Obviously I was "out of tune". Oh well, it is amazing how one day can turn everything upside down LOL! Ugh!

Well today was a Much happier day for both of us!

BTW, good point about letting him know when I leave the room! Never thought about doing that. Him wanting to feed himself, I bet you are right on the money, I do give him finger foods, but not the spoon yet, my gosh he is 9months! I better let him explore that one tomorrow! No change in my appearance. You all have excellent points! THANK YOU