Okay, i know the terrible 2's is a bad stage and with this one he is just worse than my dd was. He starts out in in his toddler bed but it never fails that he is in our room with in the hour and keeps coming back. He isn't quite 2 yet but will be shortly and the concept of big boy doesn't work yet. How do i get him to stay put? He is a terrible kicker in the bed and with me being pregnant i get uncomfortable fairly easy and him in bed makes it worse. UGHHH help, suggestions? We have a small tv in his room just for playing videos, a fan like our room, a radio, a nightlight and nothing works.

I need him out before baby comes so i don't wake him up everytime the baby wakes!

By Tink on Saturday, July 31, 2004 - 05:56 pm:

I don't have any great ideas, but how about a baby gate on his doorway? It can be placed up about 4 inches if he can usually crawl over them. Does he really need to be in the "big boy bed" yet? Maybe he still needs the confines of a crib. My ds needed his until he was nearly 3. Of course he never tried to climb out, either. Good luck, I hope there are some other ideas out there.

By Ladypeacek on Sunday, August 1, 2004 - 03:19 am:

Well he has been crawling out of his crib since he was 6 months old....and he can climb baby gates no matter how far up i put them. Oh well...i guess he will be with us till he doesn't want to be!

By Lauram on Sunday, August 1, 2004 - 08:45 am:

I have to lay on my 2 y o 's bed until he is dead asleep so he doesn't do this.... No advice, just BTDT!

By My2cuties on Sunday, August 1, 2004 - 06:01 pm:

Yes I have to do the same (laying in the bed with my 2 year old) until she falls asleep. Then I can get up and go to bed. Sometime it works and other times she is in the bed with us when we wake up the next morning (and don't ask me how she gets there). Maybe try putting him in a sleeping bag in the floor of your bedroom and let him sleep there until he is comfortable with that and then move him down the hall until he gets in his bed with no problems. I can't remember where I heard it (may have been a baby book)but it was a pretty good idea I thought.

By Kaye on Monday, August 2, 2004 - 09:15 am:

A couple of suggestions, One you can lock your door. Or you can take his doorknob off and turn it around with the lock facing the hallway and then lock him in. My advice on that is wait till he passes that hour and then unlock the door. Another option, if you son hasn't mastered these is to use a door knob cover on the inside of his door. We had a house where the little guys bedroom was at the top of the stairs and it was just unsafe to let him wander. We had a gate, but he was the climber type also. We actually just didn't mind him coming in to our room, but was worried that he would get hurt coming that way. With my dd we did the sleeping bag at the foot of the bed, then onto the floor and slowly down the hall to her room. It took a very long time for her to sleep in her bed!

By Vicki on Monday, August 2, 2004 - 01:42 pm:

PLEASE don't lock him in!! There was a terrible tragedy on the news about a fire in a house and a child dying because they were locked in a room and couldn't get out. I know that you can plan on unlocking the door before you go to bed etc...but it is one of those things that only takes on time to forget. This sounds like a habit and there is only one way to change a habit and that is to consistantly take him back to his room EVERY time he comes into yours. This is one of those things you need to decide how important it is to you and either change the habit or let it go. If your going to change it, I would do it before the baby comes rather than after so that he doesn't think the baby is the reason he can't be in there anymore. Good Luck!!

By Ladypeacek on Tuesday, August 3, 2004 - 06:01 am:

Don't worry...locking in was never an option, i am too overprotective to do that and our doors in England do not even have locks on them. I would be scared he would get scared or hurt and i would not hear him cry. I think we are just gonna have to get over it for now...we allowed it the first time and so we brought this on ourselves, lol! I told dh as i get bigger i will go sleep in ds's bed if i have to, LOL!!! Its only a toddler bed so that won't work really....i guess we will just have to be persistent!

By Eve on Tuesday, August 3, 2004 - 08:16 am:

DD has been in and out of our bed since she was born. DH and I will sometimes take turns laying down with her in her bed. What works really well for us, is a small travel bed (It's sort of a mat) on our floor at the base of our bed. She's in with us, but not in bed with us. Of course, she will climb up with us later in the early morning hours, but we don't mind.

The only thing that works wonders with DD is routine, routine, routine. I would give the bath earlier in the night and then take him to his room to read some books. Just start early and then sit with him while he is laying in his bed. Maybe if you do it enough times and stay in there with him, it will start to work. That's always been the case with us. We just have a tough time sticking with it! LOL!

Good luck, we've BTDT....

By Conni on Tuesday, August 3, 2004 - 08:55 am:

Ditto Eve! ;) We had our ds bassinet, then crib, and then the crib converted to toddler bed in our bdrm. On his 3rd bday we bought him a big boy bed and moved him in with his older brother. He still, on many occassions will come down to our room and *need* to be close to us. Which is perfectly ok with me. BUT we have a queen size bed and ds kicks. So our solution was to put dh's very nice cushy sleeping bag on the floor next to our bed with a small pillow on it. Ds know's he can climb in the sleeping bag whenever he needs too. No big deal.

He is 4 yo btw. lol

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, August 3, 2004 - 09:48 am:

The only time we had a child in our bedroom consistently was when DD14 was 3 going on 4. She was terrified of thunderstorms and even her bedroom down the hall was too far away. We didn't have AC in that house, so it was too hot to have her in our bed every night. So, she slept on a sleeping bag on the floor. If there was a storm, she was allowed up in bed with us, otherwise, she stayed on the floor. It was only that one summer and it never happened with the other daughter.

Then again when school was starting, like those few weeks before, we would get a visitor about 5 in the morning. Once school started and wasn't scary anymore, it would stop.