I have a 9 year old daughter. Yesterday while playing the computer she was getting very angry and mad. She was really in tears, crying, because the computer is too slow and she was losing the game. My 7 year old son was next to her. I was upstairs, so I listened closely expecting her to be angry at him! Well the next thing out of her mouth is "I am so mad I could kill myself!" I have an appointment with the her doctor for next week, to discuss this. One of my friends has said I am over reacting, one of my friends thinks I should get her into the doctor today and start counseling. I was just curious what you all thought. I bounce somewhere between my poor little girl must really be dealing with angry to even consider hurting herself and it is probably something she heard from a school mate. I just wanted opinions. We raise our kids a nice little bubble, so I do know that is not something she picked up from TV, books or us. But she does go to school. I have to say this was just utterly shocking to me. I might of been less concerned if it was said to me, or near me, but she had no intention of me hearing. I did speak with her briefly, she just cried, said she was very upset. Opinions?

By Candace on Wednesday, February 19, 2003 - 11:24 am:

Wow! That is a tough one. I am sorry she is so upset. It could have been just a figure of speech to express her anger. Like you said, she very well may have picked it up at school. I would just talk to her about it a little more in depth and see what she says. But talk to her AFTER she has calmed down and then try to help her find another way to deal with her anger. Then if it happens again seek counseling. Good Luck!

By Trina on Wednesday, February 19, 2003 - 01:22 pm:

I agree it is probably a figure of speech she picked up at school. However, if your mommy hackles are raised it certainly wouldn't hurt to discuss it with her doctor. {{{HUGS}}}

By Beth on Wednesday, February 19, 2003 - 03:16 pm:

I agree to you have to talk to her. Then you will know if you should be concerened. I don't know I think I tend to say something like that but don't really mean it! I am trying to think of what the exact phrase if is. Its kind of like saying I am going to pull all my hair out. But you are not really going to do it!

By Truestori on Wednesday, February 19, 2003 - 06:21 pm:

Anon,

I have a 10-year-old daughter and she is my crying queen at times. I think it is very normal, they are just starting to get more emotional and such becuase woman hood is just around the corner. If you haven't noticed any other warning signs such as depression, withdrawing from family etc...I would chalk it up to moodswings...Which are quite normal at this age.

By Melissa on Wednesday, February 19, 2003 - 06:44 pm:

You have to look at what else is going on with her does she seem more moody lately? withdrawn? Has something happened that is upsetting at school or home? I told a co worker I was going to kill our boss today, just a figure of speech. I think you have to look at everything before you can make a decision.

By Anonymous on Thursday, February 20, 2003 - 01:50 pm:

My ds said the same thing at 10, I believe his came out of anger/resentment because he getting ready to get a new sibling. I was shocked, hurt, and angry when he said it, I am sure I didn't deal with it in the proper way, but usually parents don't when they are upset. I blurted, without thinking, I don't want to hear that again, that really hurts my feelings to hear you say something like that, understood. Probably wrong, but we all make mistakes, I feel to this day he was just expressing his anger about not being the only child anymore. Anything like this going on on your dd's life? Best of luck to you.

By Susan10 on Friday, February 21, 2003 - 04:45 pm:

My son is 10, and last year he played a lot of Neopets on the internet, and sometimes he'd get so frustrated he'd be close to tears. Once he couldn't save a bunch of points he's earned and he was VERY upset. I'm a computer programmer and computers can be very frustrating. I'd say, if it's not a pattern then don't worry.