Do you ever let your dks sleep with you?
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Do you ever let your dks sleep with you?
Sometimes I do. But not anymore!
Not since ds kicked me in the face the other night!
I never get a good night's sleep if he comes in to sleep with me. (Dh works nights.) He is too restless at night. Once he turned himself sideways on the bed with his feet in my side and his head hanging over the other side of the bed. But the other night he turned himself all the way around and kicked me in the jaw with the heel of his foot. I told him "NO MORE!" but I didn't tell him why. I don't want him to feel bad about kicking me when I am pretty sure he had no idea what he was doing.
Sometimes we do.She loves to sleep in our bed.She does alot of kicking also.We went through a period where she was scared to sleep in her own room(New House)We told her she has to fall asleep in her own room and if she wakes up scared then she can come to our room.This Friday is our night and we're going to bring the mattress to the family room and stay up late and watch movies.It feels like camping to her and its alot of fun.
My kids didn't routinely sleep with us, but would come, if there were thunderstorms, or they were scared about something, like the beginning of a new school year. It tended to go in spurts. They were usually pretty quiet sleepers and I never had problems sleeping with them.
Our first summer that we lived here, there were a lot of storms. Sarah thought her room just across the hall was even too far away, but we didn't have AC, so having her in bed with us all the time, just wasn't an option, in the heat. That summer, she slept on a sleeping bag, on the floor in our room, unless there was a storm and then she was allowed on the bed!
They both went through new-school-year-anxiety for a few years, when they started school, and would come in around 5am or so! Then after school started it would stop again!
Blake has been sleeping with me for a week now, since dh left on his trip. We have been up several times in the night the last 2 nights because he has tick bites on his lower region (i'll put it that way! lol)...The kid has been MISERABLE. I need to treat the yard! Its bad this yr.
My dks normally have no desire to sleep with us. But, since dh has been gone during the week, every once in awhile, one of them will come and get in bed with me. My oldest is the worst. I usually end up with a hand in the face.
They don't sleep with us anymore, but used to occasionally. They're a little too big now (10 and 12). They may end up coming into our bed during the night, but don't stay. Now if dh or I get up one of the boys may lay down with the other for a while. Usually early in the morning or if they're not feeling well. Robin was always easy to sleep with. He'd just cuddle up next to you and be a back warmer. Randy on the other hand, was TERRIBLE!!! He's end up laying sideways with either his head of feet on top of you and he grinds his teeth LOUD!!! I never minded kids in bed with us, but am glad they're pretty much past that phase.
No. I thrash too much, and my kids are just like me. There is not enough room, and no one would get any sleep. Also, my mom had a rule when I was little, if I was scared or wanted to sleep in her room I could "camp out" in my sleeping bag on the floor. She was a single parent back then, but her bedroom was her space, so this was a compromise that worked for both of us. I agree with her thinking, and so does DH, our bedroom is OURS. If one of the children needs us we either go to them or take them downstairs.
Take it from someone who made the classic mistake of putting both of my younger babies in bed, one didn't get out until two and a half (DH slept on the couch) and then six months later, new baby came along and is now 14 months and we are struggling to get him out of bed and DH off the couch again.
Ditto Crystal. I move too much, they move too much, it's the only space in the house that belongs to DH and I only and I don't want to set up a habit I'd have to break since it's always so traumatic for them. If one of the kids is sick, we'll set them up in our bed at their bedtime but they get moved to their bed at our bedtime.
I can't remember when the last time ds slept in out bed but dd does on occasion like when Daddy is gone or she is sick. But other than that she stays in her bed.
I'm the odd mom out on this one! LOL
My son still sleeps with us more times then not and my daughter still trys at 13!
Did you all see the women on wife swap last night? I don't see anything wrong with this on occasion or when they are sick ect... But not to even have there own bedroom or putting all the beds in one room? The rule change mom put them in there own rooms with beds. The 15 and 16 year old where the first ones saying OOH that's going to be scary. I had to sleep with my daughter when we went on vacation in the hotel recently. She turned sideways and kicked me all night! NO thank you!
Natalie will NEVER sleep with us on a regular basis, but when she's older if she's afraid of a storm or something that will be fine.
Little Gary doesn't sleep in my bed but will bring his foam fold out chair in my bedroom and will read, or play his gameboy and I don't mind a bit. It's not on a regular basis though, sometimes it's just for fun, and sometimes when he's had a nightmare, or we are on storm watch, we recently had a tornado here and he is afraid everytime the storm radio comes on!! He's nine.
My dks love to sleep in my room. Even the 15yr old. The only one who sleeps in my bed is my youngest and only then if she is afraid. I usually let them "camp out" one night over the weekend.
My kids each slept with us till they were around 4. Either in our bed when they were little, or they graduated to their toddler bed in our room or a mattress on our floor. My hubby worked third shift till last year, so it wasn't really a big deal. It worked for us. My dd had night terrors in a bad way from the time she was an infant. And I just always really enjoyed having that time with each of them.
If they are sick, or need us now, they sleep on a "mattress" of blankets and comforters in the floor beside of our bed.
The only time they want to sleep in our room now is if one is terribly sick, or if dd stays all night at my parents and ds doesn't want to sleep in the room by himself (he and dd share a room). Then out come the blankets!!!
My 8 year old ds still comes into bed with me, if dh is sleeping in our sunroom. I usually don't notice him until the am but if he wakes me up snoring, then I walk him back to bed. This happens about once a week or so; after a bad dream.
If he comes into our room and dh is there, then I walk him back to his room. I can't sleep while being crowded.
Dd is only ever in our bed if there is a storm or if she has a bad dream or something. If she is sick, dh or I sleep in her room with her so the other one can get some sleep. She has a full sized bed, so it isn't bad at all. She was just in our bed at about 2am Sunday night because she woke up with a nose bleed! I was just too tired to go to her bed with her. LOL
I did and I still do. My ex husband did NOT like it one bit. They slept there more when they were younger. Now when they're scared or sick or just can't sleep they'll crawl into bed with me. Unless they're sick or crying I don't often know they're there. Sometimes they just crawl in there and I have a big bed and they don't thrash about and neither do I.
I am too selfish to let the kids sleep with me. Yes, when they were newborn babies, they each slept between me and my husband on and off for a short time. Last year when Faith was 10 months old, she slept with us on and off for about a month because she was waking up so many times. Sleeping with us was the only way none of had to get up. But no, I do not want the kids to sleep with us. I dont really think it is a bad idea. I am just selfish. Bedtime is my time to sleep.I do not want to be bothered with kids who move around too much, hog the blanket etc.. They each have nice rooms and nice beds. With that said, sometimes before bedtime I let the kids snuggle up in bed with me and we watch tv together for 30 minutes or so. Then, off to their own beds.
The boys never did sleep with us. DD will come get in the bed with us in the middle of the night just ever once in a while. The past 3 nights she has done it every night at about 2 am. She'll sleep with us a couple of hours then I'll pick her up and put her back in her own bed. Not sure what is wrong. She says she doesn't remember doing it. But she's been easily tearful the past few days, too. Not sure what is going on.
Ouch! In the face...that would hurt!
Yes, both kids have slept in our bed. DD did and still sometimes comes in with a bad dream. DH has been out of town, so she finds an excuse to come in. LOL DS, almost 5 months sleeps with us too. I was totally against it before having kids, but after I had them, it just felt right. I have no judgement on people who do or don't allow kids into bed. I can see both sides of it.