Sex marathon...sort of

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Going anon. for embarressing reasons !!!
I saw on tv where one wife offered her DH a full year of sex every night for a YEAR for his 40th b-day, which he gladly accepted !!!!! Another wife offered her DH 101 days of non-stop sex. Both of the couples talked about how much closer it made them as a couple. There was also times when they just had to "make" it happen,lol. So, I told DH about it and asked if he wanted to commit to everynight sex for awhile ( like I was REALLY expecting him to say no ;) We have sort of let life get in the way of our intimacy, so we agreed to give this a try. We are committing to 6 weeks of every night sex ( ok, so we're not as young as we used to be !!) We are in night 4. You would not BELIEVE how this has affected us ALREADY !! My DH has more pep in his step than I have seen in a long time !! He will be watching TV ,and just start grinning !! We were driving down the road the other day,discussing this-and-that about how we were going to handle some "life" issue, and he said," I don't know about this...But I KNOW WHAT I'M GETTING TONIGHT !!!!" and laughed like a mischeivous teen-ager !!

By Anonymous on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 07:24 pm:

This makes me giggle just thinking about what dh's response would be. Going anon, too.

By Cat on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 07:39 pm:

That's too funny! lol For us it'd have to be a huge effort. I'm gone almost every night of the week either at a class of some sort or working out. Dh goes to bed around 8:30-9 (gets up around 4am) so some nights he's getting into bed just as I get home. Also, right now I seemed to have pulled a muscle in my leg and it's feeling better today, but I have karate tests two nights this week and another commitment on the 27th and 1st and can't afford to hurt myself! (I'm not ready to share my commitment yet ) It would be an interesting experiment, though.

I'm not going anon. Nothing to be ashamed of.

By Reds9298 on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 08:18 pm:

Sounds like fun! We might talk about doing that after the move in 4 weeks. Right now DH is commuting and there's SO much going on, but a good plan.

By Colette on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 08:39 pm:

lol enjoy!

By Anonymous on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 09:27 pm:

So, what do you do during the time Aunt Flo comes? Do you say "Game off!" for a week and then add 2 more weeks afterwards?

By Boxzgrl on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 09:38 pm:

Oh gosh, i'm not sure I would be walking so well after day 3! LOL

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 10:24 pm:

Hee hee! Not sure we could manage every single day! Hubby has been pretty stress-free, though, so that means more fun for us! I think it helps us stay more connected, when engage a little more often, though.

By Cat on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 10:26 pm:

Melissa, OHMAGOSH!!! roflmbo! whew!

By Tarable on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 10:59 pm:

Well DH and I have been kid free for most of this summer so we are on about week 6 of every day except the 3 days of yuck! It has really made things better for us.

And yes I miss the girls but I really have enjoyed my kid free time. And it looks like we may be kid free pretty much the rest of the month except a few days!!!

Melissa that is too funny.. I was that way the first week!

By Anonymous on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 05:24 pm:

Oh my! I'm glad it has brought you and your husband closer.:-)

I think I am odd, but this to me would not be appealing. I guess I need more time in between our sexual encounters so that the tension builds up.:-) I also like things to be more spontaneous. If I was committed to every night sex for a set amount of time, it would feel too much like a chore. But, that's just me. I'm on medication that effects my libido, and I'm not as young as some of you. Yet, I am very happy for those of you who are having fun!

By Trina~moderator on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 05:34 pm:

I think the whole point is to connect and be intimate with your spouse on a daily basis. This promotes a healthy marriage and doesn't necessarily have to involve intercourse.

By Dawnk777 on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 07:15 pm:

When you put it that way, I like having time together in bed, before we get up in the morning. We talk, flirt, and snuggle and it doesn't always involve the full monty. When I work a lot of mornings, I miss it when we don't get our time together.

By Missbookworm on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 08:47 pm:

Well now I should try this! lol

I'm so exhausted lately just from working so hard (long story why I'm working so hard) but how fun would it be to play together every night like we used too!!

I'm going to bring this up to my darlin'

By Trina~moderator on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 08:47 pm:

The full monty... LMBO! Too funny, Dawn. That's exactly what I mean. Being intimate and bonding as a couple can involve love making but also includes snuggling, flirting, etc..

By Trina~moderator on Saturday, July 19, 2008 - 03:50 pm:

Doing the Deed 365 Days

By Dawnk777 on Saturday, July 19, 2008 - 04:29 pm:

The most important thing that I took away from the video, was just that they made time, for the relationship. They said, at the end of the video, that doing the deed 365 days a year, is not a sustainable model, and that having NO time for intimacy wasn't a good model either, and that they have fallen somewhere into the middle of that.

I know with my relationship, that if we don't have some snuggly time, in the morning, for a period of time, due to schedules and stress, I really do miss that and need it back again. It doesn't have to end in sex and often doesn't, but I need to the "together" time, to help me feel connected. If we have enough time, together, in the morning, it does often lead to sex, though! LOL!