My dh was up for a promotion. His supervisor pulled him into her office several months ago and told him she thought there was going to be a change. The assistant sup was leaving and she wanted him to apply. Well it took several months to happen but it finally did. Well fast forward today. My dh found out he didn't get the job. Someone else in his office who has been there 5 years less then him did. I am beyond ••••••! This was a big deal for us. More money, better expierence and better jobs later on. I feel that she should have never specifically asked my dh to apply if she didn't know that beyond a shadow of a doubt she would have picked him. At least among the people that were already there. I mean she couldn't know who from the outside might have applied. She even told him what to put in his cover letter!!! Then had the nerve not to even interview him. Just call him in the office today and tell him he didn't get it. I mean she built him up on all the great things he does blah blah blah. But sorry no job. My dh respects her for not wasting his time with an interview. I completely disagree that would have been his time to prove himself, and answer any doubts she might have had. The other person was chosen becasue she gets all her paperwork in on time and knows the computer system inside and out. I would to if I had the time she does. My dh does way more extra stuff then she does. She has no kids and does a lot of work at home. But leaves early on Fri. Who can't get more work done at home under those circumstances. Really big of her to leave early on Fri to. He runs two groups to her one. He took an extra counseling course and provides an extra service that no one in his office does. Which takes time. He has stepped in and fixed major fire and safety issues before an inspection and saved there butts. Of course I could go on and on but I am prejudice. This girl never volunteers to do anything extra and is a total kiss butt. You know the type. Everyone has always respected my dh because is a hardworker, with a good work ethic and doesn't need to kiss butt. This girl used to cry because she was not the favorite. She is going to have a hell of time gaining the respect of the other coworkers. There are several that already didn't like her. My dh has always gotten along with everyone. I am more •••••• then he is and I am having a really hard time dealing with it. I know I should just be supportive to him but I really think they did him dirty. The problem is I work there to in a different dept. I am actually up for promotion to and I know he is afraid to ruin it for me. Which he is probably right. I tell you right now it will not be pretty if they screw me over. I have been doing the job since May and not getting paid the extra for it. But I kept my mouth shut to and played along thinking that this was all going to work out. Now I am not so sure. I have a feeling they are just going to screw us both over. That's fine by me. I would rather move from here anyway. I would like to see them try to replace us and all the extra work we do. Sorry so long. I am just so angry right now!

By Debbie on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 09:25 pm:

{{{hugs}}} Well, I can see why you are angry, especially if your dh has been there a long time, and is a hard worker.

However, if your dh isn't that upset, I wold try and let it go. Here are a few things that you may want to consider. First, was this decision made by just your dh's boss, or were there others that had a say in who was given the job? I know when my dh hires/promotes, his boss has to approve it, and dh is pretty high up in the company. Also, I disagree that your dh's boss should not have told him to apply without knowing for a fact that he was getting the job. I think bosses should encourage all those that they feel might be a good match to apply. Your dh should be proud of the fact that he was considered, this shows that his boss does recognize his hard work. Just because he didn't get this promotion, doesn't mean that he won't get another. Also, if this woman knows the computer system better, this may have been a big factor. I know that when my dh promotes/hires a new person, he has a list of skills that are more important then others when he is deciding who to hire.

If you really feel that the company is not treating you right, is it possible to find a job elsewhere? I think there is nothing worse then working somewhere that you are not happy, or where you feel you aren't being treated fairly.

{{{hugs}}}}

By Sandysmom on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:12 pm:

(((hugs))) Men definitely have a different way of dealing with/seeing things. It could be that he knows she will eventually hang herself and they will see the error in promotimg her. By being quiet and continuing on in doing his very best, he will only gain favor with the bosses. (just a thought)