Christmas is a hard time of year for me. My twins, Kelsey and Kavan, were due December 26, 1996. I don't really have anyone to express my feelings to, so I am posting here. I don't dwell on my loss, but during Chistmas holiday is when it pops up the most in my thoughts.


I tried to find a local support group. We used to do the rememberance ceremony through SHARE in IL but I cannot find anything here. If anyone knows of a support group that might be in my area, please let me know. I will also post my link for SHARE in case someone here can use the info. Participating in the ceremony really made me feel validated and I felt I could honour my babies as well. Since they are buried in IL I don't have a place to go to and reflect.


http://www.nationalshareoffice.com/groups_table.php


For others who have lost children and have a hard time during the holidays, I am going to say a prayer for you.

By Cat on Thursday, November 25, 2004 - 09:18 am:

{{{{{Kim}}}}} I miscarried on Thanksgiving 10 years ago. It was my second miscarriage. It was so hard to go through that again, but I know God has his reasons for things, and if I hadn't lost the two I did, I wouldn't have the two I do. I hope you can find a support group locally. More hugs.

By Kim on Thursday, November 25, 2004 - 10:50 am:

I feel the same, Cat. If it weren't for losing the twins I would not have had Kayla.

Prayers to you too Cat.

By Marcia on Thursday, November 25, 2004 - 01:54 pm:

Kim, look up The Compassionate Friends in your area. Actually, I'll send you a website addy, and I'm sure you'll be able to find something. I'm in Canada, but I get email from the Atlanta chapter. They are very supportive, and I know they have support groups all over the place.

www.tcfatlanta.org

Hope this helps! There's nothing like parents who have been there to understand and support you.

By Kim on Thursday, November 25, 2004 - 05:58 pm:

Thanks Marcia.

By Kim on Thursday, November 25, 2004 - 05:59 pm:

Thanks Marcia. Do you know if they have anything in FL or should I write to them and ask?

By Marcia on Thursday, November 25, 2004 - 09:54 pm:

These are the chapters with websites, and Florida has 4 listed....

http://www.thecompassionatefriends.org/links.shtml

By Marcia on Saturday, November 27, 2004 - 12:30 pm:

Bumping this up for you Kim, in case you didn't get that addy.

By Kim on Saturday, November 27, 2004 - 03:27 pm:

Thanks Marcia!

By Trisa on Wednesday, December 22, 2004 - 04:59 pm:

Big hugs to you Kim.
I miscarried my first pregnancy.
But If I wouldn't have I would have no Ryan.

By Northcountrymom on Tuesday, January 20, 2009 - 12:36 am:

Hi Kim,
I noticed the anniversary of the loss of your babies' was in the last month. I'm sorry. Wanted you to know others still know thats very important.

Linda